Do you know what's worse than never meeting women you really like?
It's meeting women you really like, and then SCREWING it up.
If you have this problem - don't worry, you're not alone. A lot of guys are in the same situation as you.
I have found that there are four, very common limiting beliefs
that can destroy your chances with precisely the women you like the best. Understanding what these beliefs are, and how to deal with them, is necessary if you really want to click with the kind of women you are drawn to.
Let me break these limiting beliefs down:The first belief
: "If I like her this much, she must have guys all over her
The first limiting belief is presuming that because YOU like her, that she must be living life on easy mode, getting hit on by guys left right and center, and dating guys that are 6 inches taller than you, $200k a year richer than you and bench pressing twice your bodyweight.
It's not true. And if you let it, this belief will come up and sabotage you every time you meet a woman you really click with.
If this belief is holding you back: Remember that chemistry is inherently personal. Even if you think she is the hottest thing since Adam and Eve, that doesn't mean that she has a crazy dating life or even gets hit on a lot. In fact, if you're talking to her and you actually have real chemistry, she probably feels exactly the same way.The second belief
: "If she's this hot, and she likes me this much, there must be something wrong with her
I call this mistake the "Groucho Marx Fallacy", after the comedian's famous line "I don't want to belong to any club that would have me as a member".
If this belief is holding you back: Recognize that this belief is the ultimate self destructive belief. The belief that once you actually get what you want and have worked so hard for, that it must be a trap!The Third Belief
: "She's so great, I need to do something special this time
Nooooooo! You met an awesome woman, and she's REALLY into you because you have a lot of chemistry, and now you're going to screw it up by changing what you've been doing? This is the one time when I think the advice "just be yourself" is actually the best advice out there
If this belief is holding you back: Recognize that the desire to do something "special" comes from the belief that you are not enough by yourself. (But you are enough!).The Fourth Belief
: "We have such good chemistry, nothing could go wrong
Raw attraction is obviously the most important factor in whether a romantic and sexual relationship develops between you and a woman, but it is NOT everything, and believe me, you can still screw things up even if attraction is at 110%. Some things that can screw up even intense attraction with a woman - not making a move, being unreliable or untrustworthy, waiting too long, playing silly games.
These 4 limiting beliefs are really harmful, but they come from a deeper place.
In our new curriculum, we teach that there are 4 core beliefs
(not the same as the 4 limiting beliefs) that shape your interactions with women. If those 4 beliefs are positive, empowering and true then you will naturally develop a confident, charismatic and attractive way of interacting with women. But if your core beliefs aren't empowering, positive or true, then your subconscious mind is going to be sabotaging you everywhere you go.
If you've ever experienced the 4 limiting beliefs in this article, then you already know how these limiting beliefs can hold you back with the women you really desire.
The 4 core beliefs are a central part of our new Charisma Decoded course starting Nov 20th
. In the first few lessons, we're going to explain exactly what they are, where they come from, and how to identify and improve these core beliefs. The goal is to help you to unleash your naturally charismatic self by breaking down the limiting beliefs and other barriers that are holding you back. It really is a revolutionary approach.
Anyway, if you want to hear more about this, I'm going to be going a bit deeper in upcoming emails. Stay tuned and let me know if you like this topic.