May 20, 2017


How to Text a Girl

 How to Text A Girl

How to Text a Girl

You’re at a Friend’s party, and you're introduced to a woman that is exactly your type. You both hit it off, and there is no denying the chemistry between you two. But before you could really get to know each other, her friends whisked her away.

Luckily you exchanged numbers and made plans to talk again.

Now what?

Do you text her? Do you call her?

There are pros and cons to each of these options, but in this case, I would recommend texting her. Calling won’t ruin your chances or anything, but if you just met she might be a little more hesitant to answer the phone than reply to a text message.

So here are some tips on how to text a girl.

  1. Texting is low investment, keep it that way… 

For most people texting is something we do all the time. Because it's an easy way to communicate that doesn't take a lot of effort.

So start by sending her a message that reminds her who you are and that opens the dialogue back up. It doesn't have to be anything fancy at first, just something simple that's easy for her to reply to.

 It's better to save the serious or deep conversation for an in-person meet up where you know you'll have her full attention.


For now keep it light and funny, by sending a few low investment text messages. 

  1. Use Call back humor.

Callback humor means drawing on something funny the two of you shared during your initial interaction.

This is perfect if you don’t see yourself as a “funny” guy because you don’t have to come up new material. Just remind her of something the two of you shared in a funny teasing sort of way.

Let's pretend she was wearing a Led Zeppelin t-shirt when you met. 

"Hey Jessica, it was fun meeting you the other night. I'm organizing a "We hate Led Zeppelin" rally at city hall this week. I'd love for you to join ;)"

Using callback humor naturally keeps the conversation light and casual, but it also helps you stand out from all the other guys she's meeting. It can be a subtle way to remind her of features she liked about you during your initial meeting.

  1. Be natural.

There’s nothing wrong with being funny, just know that you don't have to be funny all the time.

This is an easy trap to fall into, especially when you get a good reaction to your callback humor. But remember she’s not expecting you to be funny all the time.

When you're trying really hard to be funny, the opposite usually happens. So instead of trying to be funny all the time, just be natural.

When you have a chance to be funny, be funny. When you have a chance to tease, tease her. If things start to get serious, be serious for a bit. A natural conversation will have a wide variety of emotions, and text messages are no different.

  1. Don’t worry if she doesn’t text back right away.

People are busy. The unexpected happens. She might not reply right away.

So don’t think that if she doesn’t text back right away that she’s not interested, or because she waited one hour to text you, you have to wait one hour and one minute before you can text back. These rules are dumb, avoid thinking like that. 

Instead, think of it this way… 

If you texted one of your buddies asking him to go grab a beer, and he didn’t instantly respond you wouldn’t think “Oh man I blew it, he doesn’t like me anymore.”  

Relax, it’s not the end of the world, she’ll reply when she gets a chance.

  1. Make a move

Once you’ve established a conversation and you’ve texting back and forth a couple times, do something bold.

Ask her to go on a date, or at this point, you can likely call her and ask her to hang out. Just don’t make the mistake of texting her from now until all eternity. You don’t want to become her texting buddy.

In the end texting is just a means to arrange a date.  Be bold, ask her to hang out.


Here's a step by step guide on how to Text a girl.

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