Whether you’re looking for sex or romance (or both), dates are going to be part of the process. We all have horrible date stories, but with a little bit of Love Systems strategy, you can improve your odds dramatically. The following are the Principles of Dating, designed to help you accomplish all of your goals on a date.
Never ask a woman what she wants to do on a date. Have everything planned and prepared for the night, including a backup plan in case she’s late or in a traffic jam. Being taken out is highly attractive to a woman, so make sure you take control of the situation and surprise her with your ownership of the date. It’s also a good idea to have her come to your place to start the date. By doing this, you’ve already made the decision that the date will end at your place, which is a great way to increase your odds of getting intimate at the end.
Don’t be another addition to her list of typical dates. Plan something different, including things like concerts, amusement parks, or art galleries. Most inept guys have probably taken her to dinner, drinks, or the movies in an attempt to impress her. Since you’re NOT trying to fail, separate yourself from the pack and be adventurous. Also, please don’t wait until the end of the night for a kiss; this is typical and always awkward. Since you’re trying to stand out, try to initiate a kiss as soon you have a window of opportunity. The end of the night should always be reserved for a much important decision: Whether she wants to have sex or not!
Take her somewhere that doesn’t allow conversation to be the only source of entertainment. Dinner or drinks tend to apply a lot of pressure on your game, so try to provide an environment where conversation is stimulated, not forced like a job interview. Great dates for conversation are things like wine tasting and taking her shopping.
Even though a stimulating environment is recommended for a date, try not to engage in something that tends to have you doing stuff independently. Since a date should be a shared experience, try to avoid things only you do independently. So if you’ve decided to see a movie, please realize that eating popcorn and turning off your cell phone is about as engaging as it gets. Interactivity can be achieved by taking salsa lessons, playing Frisbee in the park, or even going to a shooting range.
Plan dates designed to take her through a range of sensations or emotions. At a comedy club, she can be laughing, scandalized, or amused. At an art gallery, she could be visually stimulated or even offended. Making sure your date is stimulating is not only a recipe for success, it’s also a great way to prepare for future dates by seeing what makes her happy, sad, or offended.
To see the final 5 principles, including a detailed treatment on dating, please read chapter 17 of Magic Bullets.