What do you think attracts women? What do most people think of when they think about the type of man that attracts women? Is he rich? Handsome? Famous? Then ask yourself, “How often do I see a man who is the opposite of all three of these superficial characteristics get the girl?”
In school, girls would call me ugly. I definitely felt ugly when a beautiful girl would be disinterested in me. As I grew up, I realized that there is a science to the way men and women are attracted to each other. I didn’t develop the science. Nature did. I simply developed tactics and techniques around the science of courtship. I would never have done this if my wealth, fame, or looks had made me successful with women to begin with.
As men, we look for someone who would make healthy babies with us. Have you ever been attracted to a woman with big breasts? A great butt? These are quick ways for men to determine how fit a particular woman is for bearing (the baby needs to escape the woman’s hips) and caring for (from a biological standpoint, the baby will feed from the mother’s breasts) a baby. What about nice hair? Young skin? These are indicators of fertility.
Women are not as superficial as men. Biologically, women look for strong confident men who can protect both herself and a baby. She wants a leader who can take care of her. Women are driven by their emotions much more than men are driven by theirs, so women want a man who is a rock: a man who can help them weather the storm of life as much as possible. They are interested in a man who is passionate about something and is pursuing his passions fiercely. They want a man who is loyal and honest. They want a man who is socially savvy enough to strike up a conversation with strangers or dress sharply (brand names matter less than the way the clothes fit). Finally, a woman wants a man to make her feel good.
What does this mean for mating? It means that as a man, much of what attracts women to you is in your control. In order to use this information effectively, you must take personal responsibility for your own success. This is not just with women. This is with everything in life. It all starts with a desire to succeed and the knowledge that you cannot allow yourself to quit. It means that if you are not attracting women into your life regularly, you can change that with what you learn in this book. You might not be famous, but fame ties into social cues and power. Women like powerful men and men with social influence. You can have these same traits to a certain degree for yourself. If you get along with everyone, she knows you are healthy emotionally. You are one step closer to sleeping with her.
You can look at life two ways. You can either whine about how unfair it is, or you can go do something about it. Only the latter option does you any good. Meeting women might seem hard, but it is very easy once you understand what you are doing. People have fought much greater obstacles than you to succeed. Frederick Douglas escaped slavery and became a legendary abolitionist. Martin Luther King Jr. and Mahatma Gandhi fought oppressive systems for the rights of their people. Contemporaries include rappers like 50 Cent, Eminem, and Jay-Z who overcame rough backgrounds to navigate the music industry to achieve their own greatness. You do not have to be a victim of your circumstances.
In the infancy of the dating industry, there was an emphasis on lines and stories meant to capture a woman’s interest. They worked temporarily for people. The issue is that people relied too heavily on their lines and forgot what the woman was focusing on: the man himself. These men would inevitably lose the woman when his “confidence” ran out. Your goal should be to become a man who is naturally attractive to women. An honest relationship is the ultimate desire of both people. You wouldn’t want your girlfriend to be dishonest with you. Start by being honest with her.