Inner game is probably one of the most popular subjects in dating science.
It's a major sticking point for nearly everyone who has trouble talking to women and it's a problem that can be difficult to fix as well, since it tends to be rooted in a lifetime's worth of negative beliefs that are based on things like fear and rejection.
Inner game is also a topic that I think can only be discussed from a personal level. That is, I can't convince you how to think or look at life differently. Only you can do that. However, I can tell you how I overcame the very same problems, and hope that you can learn from my experiences.
To me, inner game problems boil down to two things: your experience and your mindset.
Every problem you run into with not just women, but life itself, can be attributed to one of these two areas. I'm going to get into both of these, and give some personal insights, so hopefully by the end of this newsletter you'll have a clearer understanding of what exactly it is that you need to work on to fix your own issues.
When people ask me how I developed the kind of "rock solid confidence" that allowed me to put myself out there on national TV, I always answer the same way: "Practice."
When you think about what confidence actually is you realize that it's simply doing something that you've done enough times to be comfortable with. It's only when we're thrown into situations that are unfamiliar to us that we start to lose confidence in ourselves.
The sad and somewhat ironic reality is that most men are not comfortable talking to women simply because they don't talk to women! It's a negative feedback loop that's perpetuated by a fear of "what might go wrong." This is bullshit! To be scared of the possible negative outcomes is to be scared of the very thing that enables you to get better!
Think about it this way. When you were learning to ride a bike, were you too scared to get on because of a fear that you might fall down? Maybe, but you got on anyway because you saw how much fun all the other kids were having. Even then you realized that the reward was worth the risk.
Well, this is the same thing.
I remember before I took my bootcamp, I wasn't any good at meeting women.
I used to get drinks thrown in my face, told off, or simply ignored.
The bootcamp put me on the right path, and I had the model of how things were supposed to go (and had seen instructors doing it properly - up close), but I still wouldn't have made the most of things if I hadn't gotten used to rejection enough that I could understand where I went wrong. Getting used to rejection isn't easy, but the best advice I can give you is to simply accept it. Don't get mad at her or yourself, don't go home. Just accept that it's a completely normal and necessary part of the learning process. You can't make an omelet without breaking some eggs. The sooner you realize that rejection is a necessary evil, the sooner you can come to terms with it and move past it.. There is no such thing as failure, only feedback.
Most of us grew up in a society that implied a dual-concentric model of reality. That is, the outer circle being reality, or the world around us, and the inner circle being our consciousness. We experience the outer circle, reality, through our inner circle, our consciousness. This is how we believed reality worked, that our consciousness was independent of it...but recently this all changed.
We are now learning through quantum physics that reality is actually the inner circle, and that our consciousness is the outer circle. That is, reality exists inside our mind, and we create our own reality with our thoughts (or beliefs, if you'd rather).
What does this mean?
As far as any of us know, there may only be one reality: your own. Who is to say that I'm not a piece of your imagination, your reality, writing out this entire article to send a message to you, from your subconscious mind?
The truth is, whether any of us actually exist or not is irrelevant. Life is a game, and it's a game that a lot of people are scared to play. Don't be one of them.
I'll end this article with something that I've never written about before. I remember the very night that I became good at attracting women. I remember because I had an epiphany that night and it was so mind-blowing that I had to write it down as soon as I came home.
It has since become my mantra, and I know that if down the road I ever forget everything that I've learned in the past few years, all I will have to do is read this piece of paper and it will all come back.
What does the paper say?
"The secret to becoming amazing at attracting women is...to remember that you already are."
One of the greatest things about inner game is that not only does it make you more confident around women, but also all areas of your life.
You probably already know, but Love Systems just doesn't sell guides and audios. We also regularly hold bootcamps. They are life changing experiences. Over the course of three days you will learn the ins and outs of how to meet the type of women you have always wanted and your love life will never be the same after attending one. Imaging approaching a woman and failing...then being told by some of world's best dating instructors, such as Cajun, exactly what you did wrong, and what you should be doing instead.
You try again... this time you get a little further. Once again the instructors break down what wrong and what went right. This time you manage to get her number. However, it doesn't end there...they will tell you how to take it even further.
By the end of the night you'll be confidently approaching beautiful women (you would have never dared to approach in the past), attracting, seducing and even going home together.
These are the epic results that students consistently get at our bootcamps. Why? Because our instructors ARE the best of the best... and our methods WORK! It's no coincidence that our bootcamps are constantly sold out.
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