I asked Cajun, a star Love Systems instructor, to take a year off and do field research. I chose Cajun not only because he’s one of the best Love Systems instructors, but also because he isn’t an especially good looking guy.
You might know him as the winner to “Keys to the VIP”, a TV show that follows men in nightclubs with hidden cameras as they pick up women.
Cajun brought back his results and they blew everyone away.
Not only had he completely adapted the Love Systems method to online dating, but he was meeting and attracting gorgeous women even easier than at bars, clubs or parties.
Here are some tips from Cajun himself that you can put to use immediately to dramatically increase your chances online:
When choosing the pictures to use on your dating site profile, be sure to include pictures where you’re having fun with others. Nothing says “possible weirdo” like a profile with nothing but shots of yourself completely alone.
Don’t feel the need to include photos of yourself all over other women either. All it really says is that you felt the need to include it, and that you’re either a player or a horn-dog...
Pro-tip: Try incorporating at least one picture where you’re the center of attention in a group of people.
Your photos communicate who you are, and on dating sites they’re almost always the first thing a woman sees, so make sure you look your best in your main profile picture.
Wear clothes that best communicate who you are, make sure your hair is nice, you should be centered in the frame and use “shallow focus” if possible (where the object of attention is in focus, and the other objects are blurred)>
Pro-tip: Don’t look at the camera! Studies have shown that women are more likely to click on a man’s profile if he’s not looking at the camera in his photo.
Your “about me” in your profile shouldn’t be a list of likes/dislikes, facts about you, or things you’re looking for in a woman.
That’s boring! Try to communicate your personality in your write-up. Be descriptive! Tell a funny story that explains the type of person you are or describe an adventure you could both go on!
Give them something to comment on so if they’re interested in you, messaging you will be that much easier.
Pro-tip: Make sure your spelling and punctuation are correct. Terrible grammar can be a big turn off for some women.
Your first message can make or break you, so put some thought into it. Short sms-style messages are not the way to go here, and neither are long, drawn out diatribes about how much you have in common with each other..
Try to evoke an emotional reaction out of her with your messages, and keep it fun! She may get dozens of messages a day — try to make yours stand out.
Pro-tip: Using humor is a great way to relieve the tension of the first message. Try inviting her to come along on a made-up activity like robbing a bank or stealing a pirate ship, be creative!
Don’t wait for the communication to fizzle by playing email tag back and forth on a dating site.
Try to get her on the phone after a few messages and get to know her for real. Don’t rush to set a date up – women often want to make sure they can feel comfortable around you before they’ll agree to a meet..
Chat programs like skype are also a great way to have a more personal method of communication.
Pro-tip: Don’t be too formal with setting up the date. Often “going for a drink” at a hip local bar or restaurant is an easy low-investment date that won’t break the bank for you.
If you put these pro-tips into practice you’ll meeting and picking up girls online in no time at all!
Has this happened to you?
You toil for a weekend, choosing pictures and polishing your profile. Then, you message dozens of women: NO REPLIES…
Being a persistent guy, you tweak your profile and messages. A dozen profiles and 100s of messages later – STILL NOTHING!
Knowing about these frustrations, one of the world’s top dating coaches Derek Cajun (whom I mentioned above), took upon the task of developing a system that he could teach to any man to succeed online.
The result is The Gentleman’s Guide to Online Dating – a complete system for attracting and dating women you meet online.
The book stems from two years of research and applies the proven Love Systems approach that’s revolutionized the way men meet women in nightclubs, shopping malls, coffee shops and social circles.