I always ask myself what's the MOST important information men need right now. This week, I took out the guesswork. We surveyed 58 men who have transformed their dating life over the last year, and asked THEM what was their most important learning. Here are 10 such responses:
"If you force yourself to make statements instead of asking questions [when possible], you can't help but be more interesting to women, and you'll seem different and more confident than other men."
- John W., 24, London, UK
"I was on of those guys who was spinning his wheels for years before I decided to take a bootcamp and get serious. The most important thing I learned is that at least with Love Systems everything is related. It's not a trick you can turn on and off; you should BECOME the attractive man who women notice. Even when no women are around. Especially when no women are around."
- Christian E., 43, Whitby, ON
"Looking back, when I used to be interested in a woman I'd be really nice to her and I'd do things to show her what a nice guy I was in general. This wasn't deliberate or anything - just what I see when I look back. Now I know I won't please everyone, I'm nice when it's deserved, and people like me a whole lot better - not just women; I have a lot more friends now too."
- Imran S., 27, Bristol, UK
"This won't be news to you, but so much of what I thought would help my love life was a waste of time. Book clubs? Cooking class? Speed dating? Just kill me now. Go out with a good group of guys who know what they're doing, have fun, use what's in Magic Bullets, and you'll do fine. This isn't rocket science."
- Julian S., 34, Orlando, FL
"The biggest breakthrough for me was just internalizing that women WANT men. You don't have to go under the radar. I've had a lot of success being the man who knows what he wants and says so. I couldn't do this right away - I had to learn the flirting, body language, etc., skills so I could back it up - but it didn't take long either."
- Jackson R., 29, Myrtle Beach, SC
"I learned so much through Love Systems but I don't know how much of it I would have used until I saw it working in front of me. I had to kill my limiting beliefs. I'm 5'3 and of Asian descent. When I saw Asian instructors who looked like me pick up hot women I went into 'no excuses' mode. You need inner game and outer game to succeed."
- Donald W., 25, Melbourne, Australia
"I was one of those guys who everyone said should have women in my life, but things never clicked. I have to admit, the first night of Super Conference was brutal. The instructors picked on and corrected every little thing. But the next night was magic - I was finally free. I finally met the confident, genuine MAN who lived inside me. He'd been waiting a long time..."
- Patrick D., 48, St. Louis, MO
"I resisted doing this for too long, because I thought I'd have to dress weird, memorize stupid lines, and have my friends think I'm creepy. I couldn't have been more wrong. The biggest learning is you don't have to pretend to be someone you're not... just be the best version of yourself and, believe it or not, women will like it. I've dated more women - and more attractive women - in the last year than in the 26 years beforehand."
- Chris J., 27, Halifax, NS
"The three most important things I learned were body language, body language, and body language. It's 93% of communication and it never lies. Cajun and Vercetti know their shit. 'Nuff said."
- Dmitri V., 35, Hamburg, Germany
"It's @()&*ing common sense. Do what you always do, and you'll get what you've always gotten. Push yourself out of your comfort zone or you're wasting your time. I was scared %&%less when I took a bootcamp. I was super-uncomfortable approaching women. And so on. But I was pretty damn comfortable when I took hot women home, and I can't imagine what my life would be like if I hadn't had the balls to push myself out of my comfort zone. Man up!"
- Steve J., Madison, WI, 22