2011 is almost over, but there’s still time to get a great girl for the holidays. First of all, if you missed my post last week on how to meet women over the holiday season, go read it now!
This has been pretty popular, and all week I’ve been getting mail and tweets from guys who are surprised how easy it is to meet women using Love Systems. But they don’t always know what to do next.
Are you one of those guys? If so, let’s get this solved!
Do you want a phone number and a date? Or do you want to take her home? Or is she your next girlfriend? Make a decision, because each path leads in a different direction.
Focus on Physical Escalation (touching) and Logistics (getting her alone with you somewhere where you can take things to the next level). If you know the Love Systems Triad, this should be obvious, but even if you haven’t, remember to touch early and touch often. Find out early in the night who she is with and where she is going later. A couple quick tips:
Keychain did a great job explaining rapid escalation on the interview series this year. He’s one of the stars of the Beyond Words course and is a master of quickly turning things physical with a woman, so I heartily endorse this:
And in terms of state-based attraction, if you’re looking for casual hookups, I definitely recommend the high-energy sexualized roleplays like the kind that Braddock and Daxx use. Their best and most original material is on their Push/Pull Interview last month:
(The Braddock and Daxx push/pull interview may be the best one we’ve done all year. Click the link above to listen to the first ten minutes right away)
...then it’s mostly about the Emotional Connection. Physical Escalation / touching is less important on the first meeting (but still do it) and Logistics aren’t usually very important at all.
Emotional connection comes through conversation. So you need great conversation and flirting skills. Can you think on your feet? Here are a couple of flirting/conversation skills:
Want to get better at flirting and conversation skills? This will help:
The second part of this is that once you get her phone number, you still need to turn it into a date. The ultimate resource for this of course is Braddock’s book but here are a couple hints to get you going:
There’s lots more I want to say about Callback Humor, but we’ve got to move on. If you want to pump up your phone game with Callback Humor, click the link below:
Here’s where you need the full package. You need the conversation skills, you need the phone and text game skills (because there are going to be a few dates before she becomes your girlfriend and you’ve got to keep things going in between those dates).
You’ll also need – unlike in the last two cases – an attractive lifestyle. A woman can hook up with you without caring about what you do with your time, but for a woman to become your girlfriend, she has to want to join your life. That’s friends, hobbies, job, social life, interests, etc.
Here are a few handy lifestyle hints – actually, before we get into that, what IS lifestyle anyway? Personally, I like this quote, from Aristotle:
You are what you repeatedly do.
So if you think you don’t have a lifestyle now, you’re wrong. You do. It might not be an attractive one, like Corporate Drone or Internet Addict, or if you’ve got your life together, it might already be a great one. Okay, onto the tips:
This year was a great one for the interview series – back in the summer there was a great one on Attractive Lifestyles. Listen now by clicking the link below:
Actually, now all of the interviews from this past year are in one just-released “10 Interview Value Pack”. Not only do you get all of the above interviews – for hookups, for dates, and for relationships – but you also get a couple of my favorite volumes that apply to all three goals:
Are you an orbiter? The platonic friend of a woman you’re attracted to? If you answer “Yes” to more than 3 of these questions, you need to re-evaluate your relationship with this woman:
Don’t go into 2012 being an orbiter... these situations don’t turn around by themselves.
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