August 17, 2010


Six Objects Every Man Must Have While Approaching Women

One theme of our bootcamps and Day Game Workshops is to “control the controllables.”

Some factors are outside of your control. I was taking home a very beautiful lingerie model from a friend’s party in Toronto when she literally fainted in the taxi. Instead of my hotel, we had a decidedly non-romantic night at the hospital.

That was outside my control. Nothing I could have done about that.

On the other hand, I’ve had pickups go wrong because of things that WERE in my control – moreover, they were things that ANY man could have done, no matter what his skill level, and in fact could have and should have been taken care of before I even left my house.

So, I made this list to share with you of 6 objects any man should have. These are things you can do BEFORE you go out that make your game better INSTANTLY. No excuses!

  1. A phone that takes, sends, and receives pictures and video. This is great for those “You won’t believe what I just saw,” or “We’ve gone to an after party – check out this video. You should come!” type of messages.

  2. A lighter. Ideally a lighter with a story behind it. In a lot of places now, people go outside to smoke. She may ask you for a light, either because she needs one or because that’s how some girls tell guys they are interested in them. If you pull out a snazzy lighter, she’ll probably ask you about it.

  3. Breath mints. Obvious, for you. Not so obvious: she might not want to kiss you if she’s unsure of her breath. Make sure you have a supply before you leave the house.

Next time you’re in a foreign country, buy a giant stack of breath mints. When you get home, every time you take one out, she has an easy thing to ask you about.

  1. Wine, vodka, and girlie mixers. How else are you going to invite her home for one last drink after the bars close? Bonus points for champagne; it doesn’t have to be expensive.

Before Love Systems and the Triad Model of Seduction I had some success by just asking women I was talking to when the bars closed, “do you like champagne?” When they said yes, I brought them home. With a good wingman, this works very well.

  1. Two condoms. Don’t rely on your bedside table; you might end up at her place. And trust me – when she’s trying to keep “plausible deniability” that you and her are not going to have sex, it’s a bit awkward to talk her into stopping at the gas station to get condoms...

... but it’s doable. I really must write a field report of that night...

  1. A couple notes in your phone. Every time you go out, have fun and get better at some skill. Maybe it’s a routine from The Routines Manual Vol. 1 or Vol. 2 that you want to try out or maybe it’s a reminder to yourself to make statements instead of asking questions or to tease her more – it could be one of a million things depending on what you’re working on with your game. But whatever it is, write it down so you don’t forget it in the heat of the moment.

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Nick Savoy
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