October 10, 2010


Ten Secrets to a Successful Approach

You see an attractive woman. You don’t know her. You have no “excuse” to talk to her. Can you walk up to her and start a conversation – the kind of conversation that’s going to lead to attraction and more?

This is a skill any man can master. And one no man can afford to ignore – if you can’t comfortably talk to strangers, you’ve excluded 99.9% of the women whose path you’re going to cross in life.

Here's a video I did where I go over some secrets to a successful approach. 

So if you’re not approaching SUCCESSFULLY and CONSISTENTLY, then I want you to follow me here. It won’t cost you a cent. Just print out this list of 10 things, keep it with you, and read it every time you’re out somewhere where there are beautiful women. Master these and your life WILL change.

  1. Do “warm up sets” before you get to the bar/club/party/park. Somewhere nearby, do a few approaches that “don’t count” until you’re in a talkative, social state of mind. The world’s best pick up artists do this.

  2. Be “social” not a “shark.” The guy who walks into a bar, circles around a few times, and then gets the courage to approach women one by one is going home alone. Women KNOW this type. Talk socially to everyone and have fun – you’re not a starving hunter desperate for a meal.

  3. Smile. That one’s easy.

  4. Have a couple of “go-to” openers – things you can say to start a conversation that you KNOW will work. You don’t need 50, 500, or 5000. 3 or 4 is just fine. Pick a couple you like from The Routines Manual – it’s 200 pages of guaranteed ‘things to say’ from approaching to seduction that actual top pickup artists use in their personal life.

  5. Approach right away. Once she notices you looking (she will -- women have eyes in the back of their head), you’re either going to be “confident” or “creepy,” so be confident and approach.

[More advanced guys can play the eye contact game, but if you’re having trouble successfully starting a conversation 99% of the time, keep it simple]

  1. Use relaxed, confident body language. Get your wingman to watch you and critique. For a complete video course with live examples (including using body language to escalate physically), there’s nothing better than the Beyond Words Home Study Course featuring Cajun and Vercetti.

  2. It doesn’t matter who she is with. Attractive women rarely do things alone. So get used to the idea that you’re going to have to meet the people she is with at the same time as you meet her. (Day Game is sometimes an exception to this). Whether her friends are male or female, approach anyway. If she’s off-limits, they’ll tell you. We don’t have space to go into this in detail here, but women who have guys in their group are more likely to have a same-night encounter anyway.

  3. Eye contact. There’s another easy one. Split it equally among everyone in her group.

  4. Project your voice. OK, I’m not a successful Shakespearean actor like Daniel Vercetti – he could give you the drills that professionals use. (His presentation at last year’s Super Conference was nothing short of extraordinary… even instructors were taking notes.) Here’s what I did when I had to learn this… before there even was a Love Systems: put your hand on your chest, just below your pectorals. Experiment with your voice until you can feel vibrations in your hand. That’s the way you want to talk. Be too loud rather than too quiet.

  5. Tell them you know Nick Savoy. OK, not really. But have something to say – you’re going to have to do 90% of the talking at first. Don’t keep talking about whatever your opener was about. When she starts breaking into the conversation, asking your name, where you’re from, what you do for a living – that’s when you know she’s attracted.

[More advanced quiz – what do you do as soon as you know she’s attracted? Answer at the bottom]

In Case You Missed It

In between this weekly Love Systems’ insider (LSi) newsletter, the world’s top dating coaches and pickup artists are creating new material:

Oh yeah, the quiz

If your answer (to the question: what do you do as soon as you know she’s attracted?) was “move into Qualification,” give yourself a pat on the back. That’s a good answer.

If you answered “move into Qualification and start to escalate physically,” that’s a really good answer. If you don’t know why this is right, read the Love Systems Triad.

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September 10, 2016

I learn a lot, a special about confidence when u are approach girl


August 29, 2016

Hello!i learn a lot on this articles i was a shy guy but now im too confidant.please may you post to me your other articles on my email address if possible.

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