By Dahunter, Love Systems Instructor
Dahunter is another of those top guys you don’t hear so much about. He took his bootcamp with us a few years ago and has advanced dramatically since then to the point where he is often (constantly?) seen with “10”s. Because of his other business interests, you don’t see him on a lot of Love Systems programs outside Los Angeles, but he is available for individualized training. As a native Spanish speaker, he’s able to train you in English or Spanish. Or both. Okay, over to Dahunter:
First, let me give you a fair warning. This is pretty advanced stuff. If you have no game (are still asking "how do I find a woman?") and have no social skills right now, you can definitely get them - and I honestly believe anyone can - but this post is not the place to start.
I've been thinking a lot about universal ways to improve my game, and one of the things that I'm always about is finding the permanent solution to a problem.
So, in my quest to improve my game (and everybody else's) I've found that there are specific principles you can apply to your game that once you implement, you will create an "organic" improvement, meaning you won't have to think about it. It becomes natural to you (this is why I think I get called a natural a lot because it's really hard for most people to see what "principles" you operate under as opposed to techniques).
So, to create a rock-solid foundation of change that lasts forever (and so you don't "lose it" even when you’ve dated a girl for a while or haven't gone out for a long time) we need to implement these principles or Beliefs.
If you don't know what a belief is, let me give you a short introduction:
A belief is a construct of your mind used to understand the world around you. Since you can't focus on a million things at the same time, your brain will assume that it already knows the truth of a lot of things around you so you don't have to think about them. This helps you operate smoothly so you just focus on what’s new/urgent/interesting.
The problem is a lot of times your beliefs are hurting you and depriving you of amazing things you could be getting whether it's women, money, and all sorts of opportunities.
Whatever you think is true, you will act accordingly, and people will respond to that. If you think you can't get rich you will never act upon anything because "you can't get rich, so what's the point." If you think that you are destined to be rich you will not stop until you find something that makes you rich because "that's your destiny."
Don't take this to the extreme where you become a delusional bastard. Stay in reality and well grounded but come from this place, keep focusing on these beliefs and eventually you will master them so they become your reality. For instance, don’t stop approaching women because you’re so awesome they’ll come to you.
So... let's get on to a more practical part of this, with two beliefs that can transform your game if you come from this place:
This belief came from me analyzing all of the most amazing guys with girls that I know. I was trying to put into words what it was that they all had in common that made them have that "it" factor. You meet these guys and you instantly like them and of course girls love them too.
I was trying to break them down until I started to look into their beliefs and it hit me when I was breaking down Daxx (who's an awesome instructor with awesome game and beliefs).
What we'll do (I live with Braddock and Daxx) is consult each other's text messages to come up with the best alternative to send a girl. What I was noticing was that Daxx comes from the strong belief that girls really want him, as opposed to "trying to get the girl to see him." And, I was blown away by how strong that belief is in him. So, we started talking and I was telling him about the naturals I know and we finally broke it down into a specific belief that every single natural has: Everybody loves you and every woman wants you. If not, they’re crazy.
They all assume girls love them like crazy. If a natural is in a club and a girl just looks at him, he will be like "yep, she likes me." They are looking for any little detail to confirm that belief so it's very strongly rooted because they are always confirming it.
Guess what this does? It makes you not look for any validation. You don't need approval and, above all, you don't need to "make women feel attracted to you." They just like you already so your mind is like the quiet in the storm. The world is a great place for these guys because they’re walking around with the image of everyone around them wanting them... and guess what, it works.
One of the best naturals I know even said to me once "you know when you're really delusional about something to the point where there's nothing that will convince you otherwise? That's how I got good.”
The other side of this one belief is: "if she doesn't, she’s crazy.” This part is just as important! When you convince yourself of something so strongly nothing is going to convince you otherwise, so if a girl is acting weird by not being into you, that’s on her. You don’t hang out with crazy people anyway.
And that, my friends, is the amazing belief structure that will snowball and give you unstoppable confidence and power with women.
The one other belief I want to show you is just as powerful and it will help you get women to come home with you.
(What I’m about to discuss is just the belief. The tactics are also important, especially if you don’t already know what you’re doing. For a great breakdown of the step-by-step of getting her home with you, consult Jeremy Soul in this interview.
I got this because the other day I had this stripper all over me, she loved me, and we were going to meet up after the strip club. My belief was that I should bring her with me because I need to "make her" do it right? So, guess what happened? This girl is all over me and I'm hesitating if she's going to come. She senses this and of course she goes "well, if this guy doesn't believe that I want to come that means that he doesn't get this that often (even if he does) because other girls have probably done this before so I just shouldn't do it." Guess what? No show.
And this is the kind of belief that will lead you to get attraction in the club and not pull...
On the other hand, let's analyze if you were in this same situation and you believed that this girl really wanted to come home with you. You would have been completely relaxed about it. After all, you get this deep rooted feeling that she really wants to come home with you. So what do you do? You may tease her a little bit by just leaving when your friends are leaving (instead of trying to stay there trying to "get her") and you know what happens... she wants what she can't have so she's not validated yet. So she's looking for that sense of completion that she "has you" so she comes and meets you and boom, everybody wins.
And again, any girl who doesn't is crazy and weird and you don't deal with psychopaths anyways. You win no matter what, feel no social anxiety and you are the fucking champ.
"You know when you're really delusional about something to the point where there's nothing that will convince you otherwise? That's how I got good." Do that for a while and eventually it will become true for you.
Hope this helps.
Here's an exercise to work on inserting new beliefs:
Review your night out, and think of every interaction you had. Analyze them by thinking about what beliefs were running through your head. Then, implement good beliefs by re-running the movie in your head but this time doing it with the foundation of the beliefs I just gave you. Your brain will absorb this and eventually you will do these things naturally.
P.S. Daxx and I have estimated that 5-7 of these beliefs will make you one of the best of the world. If you think you have a belief like that feel free to email it to me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I'll run it through my pickup simulator!
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