August 15, 2011


How To Get Women - 10 Important Things To Know

How to Get Women

As a professional with plenty of experience in this realm, we’ve studied the field and come up with a successful blueprint in the Magic Bullets Handbook, which is filled with hundreds of great insights that you can improve so you know how to get women. The more you follow, the more successful you’ll be – no matter who you are.

While the book is the main entrée, here’s a set of appetizers in the form of the 10 most important things you need to know about how to get women:

1. To get women, you first need to "get" women. 

Most guys don't get women because they don't "get" women - i.e. they don't understand where women are coming from emotionally. But when you understand how attraction works in women, suddenly you start to "get" women. Watch this video to the end (and you can even view part two) because it REALLY explains a lot. 

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This means man usually makes the first move. Even if she’s interested in you, the most she’s likely to do is to stand near you or make eye contact a couple times to encourage you to approach her.

Once you see her, don’t hesitate. 10 minutes from now she might not be there or another guy might have beaten you to the punch. Plus, women can tell when you’re working up the courage to approach. Shyness might be endearing in movies and romance novels, but it doesn’t work in the real world. Approach right away, even if you don’t know what you’re going to say (we’ll cover that later).

2. Attraction before comfort 

    You have to get a girl to LIKE you before you want to start going deep into the conversation. Men who don’t know how to get women often ask her lots of questions hoping that they’ll stumble on something they have in common.

    Sometimes this can work, but usually not. Until she has a reason to care about what you think of her, you’re just another random guy asking her the same questions every other random guy asks her. One thing we teach on Love Systems bootcamps is to tell her (or better, show her) something interesting about yourself first. When she gets curious about you, she will start with the questions.

    This is especially important in terms of how to get beautiful women. Hotter women usually get approached more and have less tolerance for the usual “random guy” questions.

    3. Statements, not questions

      This is connected to the last point. Questions contribute nothing to a conversation and tell her nothing about you. Too many questions makes it feel like a job interview.

      Never ask two questions in a row. Statements can often replace questions. Instead of asking where’s she’s from, tell her where you’re from and she may respond in kind. Or guess where she’s from. It doesn’t matter if you are right; either way it’s more interesting than yet another factual question.

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      4. Playful, not serious

        Fun and playful works much better than serious and deep. This is true whether you want a series of one-night stands or whether you’re like a recent client of mine who told me my job for him was to find me a wife.

        Even serious women go out because they want to relax and have fun. There’s a time and a place for being serious and deep, but it’s not within 15 minutes of meeting her. Smile, laugh, and don’t take everything too seriously.

        5. To get women, be a challenge

          Men who are experienced in how to get women know that you can’t make it too easy for her. If she knows that she can have you before she’s done anything to deserve your attention other than being pretty, then she might be flattered, but she won’t be attracted.

          Even if you approach her with a compliment, which is something that is often done in day game, let this mean that she has your curiosity, not your undying love. Don’t give her compliments she hasn’t earned.

          6. How you dress is your identity

            Attractive women get hit on so much that they don’t have time to get to know every single man who wants to talk to her. Within 30-90 seconds, she’s going to decide if you’re a “maybe” or a “no.” A lot of that comes from how you dress.

            It’s not just being fashionable. It’s about projecting who you are. Mixed messages are confusing and make women think you’re trying to hide something or be someone you’re not. Lawyers don’t wear ripped jeans. Musicians don’t dress like accountants. Fun, confident men don’t dress to blend in. And so on.

            7. Touch early, touch often

              You can’t talk a woman into bed or into a relationship. So if you’re wondering how do you get a girl interested in you when nothing you say seems to be working, the problem might be with your hands more than your words.

              Touch her (appropriately – hands, shoulders, etc.) as soon as you meet her and slowly escalate the duration and intensity of each touch. Give her time to get comfortable with your touch – if she’s not comfortable holding your hand, she’s definitely not going to be comfortable being sexual with you.

              Managing the “physical conversation” is one of the most important things you can do in terms of how to get girls.

              8. Use your balls

                Playing it safe will never get you the girl. Women appreciate confidence, boldness, and persistence. Make the first move. Some women may like you but still want you to work for it. And don’t whine you’re going home alone if you never tried to get her to come home with you. Like hockey superstar Wayne Gretzky said, you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

                If you’re shy, visualization is a great inner game technique.

                9. The first thing you say doesn’t matter

                There is no such thing as a pickup line that will help you learn how to get women. The only purpose of your ‘opening line’ is to start a conversation.

                If this doesn’t come easily to you, take some classic Love Systems dating advice and use a neutral opinion opener. Ask her and her friends to settle an argument between you and your friends, like “Is it OK to break up with someone by text message?” or “Do Drunk ‘I Love You’s’ Count?” Run with it for 30-60 seconds, then change the subject to something else. Congratulations – you’re in the door!

                10. Be man enough to get help

                  Men aren’t “supposed” to seek out advice on how to get women or ask their friends how do I get a girl. We don’t sit around analyzing each other’s relationships.

                  Still, picking up beautiful women is a skill that anyone can learn with enough time, practice, and access to the right resources. There is a ton of free stuff (including a great newsletter) at Love Systems to help you get started. Sometimes the techniques go against “conventional wisdom” or what seems to work in movies and romance novels. Push yourself out of your comfort zone and try them – they DO work and they are a huge advantage over the competition.



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                  12 Responses


                  April 13, 2017

                  Hot women are so overrated


                  December 22, 2016

                  Great. I just dont understand the one about having balls. Are you simply saying that one must initiate and ask out ?

                  mark edmonson
                  mark edmonson

                  October 15, 2016

                  Sound good to me I enjoy reading your stuff very nice like to here more


                  September 22, 2016

                  The big problem whit the most of men is the money… If you have a pocket full of green paper you are ready to do everything… Without money you can’t wear pretty clothes, neither can go to the gim to look well, cut your hair and others things that all man need to live with confidence.


                  July 27, 2016

                  I think what you are sharing is very good. I am an experience to all that. Jake, about your being lucky or cursed, I want you to know that it is the approach not the books. You may read all the books but if you don’t master the approach then forget it.


                  July 21, 2016

                  Hi Guys just the LOveSystem say`s
                  The strategy to get girls to do what you can do because if you fail in many try someday you gonna succest on it just build some confidence on your self and don`t be shy
                  we are MEN!!!!!!


                  June 17, 2016

                  I met my next door neighbor 2 days ago and we have talked a little since but I’m not sure if she’s interested in me. We talked today before she went to work. She touched me first. I’ve tried to talk to her on Facebook today but no response. What does that mean?


                  June 02, 2016

                  The biggest improvement needs to come within. Cheap tricks and gimmicky one-liners will temporary work but the core issues within yourself needs to be fixed. There is one book what transformed me, like, it just changed my mindset and view of the world for the better, and I don’t think you need much more than that. You can check out book here:


                  May 29, 2016

                  My wife left me 5 months ago havent seen or heard from her sense ive been trying to get back out and start dating but ive been strugglying just to get a woman to even look at me i really need some coaching and advice.


                  May 19, 2016

                  Hi Nick. Let just say you met a girl and she really likes you. She also told you that she really likes you but, then she said she is not ready for a relationship because she is selfish in that she still have to develop herself and get to know herself more before she can properly share something with someone else. How do you answer that? I think I can really spoil her but the other hand I’m worried i might lose her than good…Well.. I don’t know. What do you think?


                  April 22, 2016

                  Your love system ads is being great help to me and is very helpful thanks alot


                  March 17, 2016

                  This is great stuff, but nothing I haven’t heard before, I’m 23 and I’ve bought all kinds of attraction and seduction books, nothing seems to work. I have no issues with confidence or appearance, but I do actually believe that I’m cursed, I mean I’ve been in college for three years and I go out quite often, but I haven’t yet gotten the chance to sleep with a girl. I want nothing more than to attract women like my friends do but so far, no such luck.

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