Approach anxiety is a brick wall I hear about all the time that guys hit in game. It is not unnatural, it is completely normal, you are just passing through one of the stages that everyone who gets into game goes through. So, let’s get to it.
The # 1 reason we get approach anxiety is our ‘Fear of Rejection’. Our minds tell us not to approach people we don’t know as it is outside of our comfort zones. You have to realize that males are logical creatures (females are emotional), and that being the case, our mind will give us logical reasons not to approach to keep us safe, to keep us comfortable, and will put our comfort above our happiness.View full article →
Why don’t women approach you?
Actually, why don’t women approach MEN? Some do. But most women don’t. And the type of woman who is attractive and has a lot of guys after her will usually approach even less. I’ll explain why…and then give you a big twist at the end…
But before we dive in, a quick HEADS-UP – if you’ve recently been through a breakup get the Breakup Survival Guide for Men immediately. It’s not about being “strong” or “tough” – there are certain psychological and chemical processes that go on in a breakup. You need the tools to deal with these before you’ll be able to be at the top of your game. Check it out here:View full article →
Love Systems instructor Vercetti teaches clients how to get good with women fast.
A common question I’m asked is “How long did it take you to get good with women?” And while I'm unable to give a precise answer I am aware of the tools I used to get good quickly. I went through many frustrating nights coming home virtually in tears of frustration but it’s what I did in those moments that enabled me to take major steps and overcome my sticking points. One of the most useful tools I’ve used to accelerate my learning is Creative Visualization.
In Maxwell Maltz’ book Psycho Cybernetics – which I highly recommend - He basically talks about the use of Visualization to modify and improve your Self Image; it’s extremely powerful.
From all the different backgrounds, skills and stories that every attendee has, the path inevitably leads to the same focal point: we admit that we want to be better with women. While this may be an obvious point, a realization I had very early on was that this extends into all aspects of your life. This is more about becoming your best self and the best man you can possibly be, which affects all relationships that you come into contact with on a daily basis. Once you improve your inner game, self-image, and quiet the voices in your head that can be deafening at times, you become laid back and care free.View full article →
Here’s a list of 10 ways to improve your success with women, written by former Love Systems Instructor Soul. By implementing these, you will see big improvements in your overall life as well as in your success with women.
1. Stop reading all dating forums for two weeks. Bar yourself from reading, writing, or replying to any posts on any internet dating science forum. You will discover that time spent working on yourself is more valuable that arguing, debating or defending any aspect of dating science.View full article →
Every place I go at least once a week, I am pretty sure I know most of the staff members. I would suggest you do the same thing. Get to know the staff of places you frequent. It might come in handy some day like it did for me.
In fact, a couple weeks prior I had a similar situation. I was at a Jamba Juice I always go to after the gym. Same deal. I know the staff, they know me. When I walked in, we greeted each other and there happened to be a MILF in there. Few minutes later, we exchanged numbers.
You spend an hour getting ready to go out. Maybe two, counting travel time. Maybe you review your copy of the Magic Bullets Handbook before you leave. You probably approach a few different women before you find one you really like. You’re about another hour into talking to her when you ask for her phone number….
Don’t screw this part up. You’ve already invested a few hours into your night – and this woman could be your future long-term girlfriend or whatever… or you could screw it all up in about 30 seconds.
How to get a girl’s phone number
Remember these ten rules:
There’s nothing worse than getting put into the friend zone by a girl you like. Instead of dating her, you have become her buddy. You’ve become a therapist and a shoulder to cry on. Here are some valuable tips that will help you to get out of the friend zone with a girl you like.
First, you’re going to have to spend a lot less time with her for a while. The reason you need a break from her is because it's hard to change the frame from friend to sexual, it’s going backwards. To try and physically escalate with her at this point will feel weird to you and her. The time away from each other should help with this.View full article →
We were recently asked a couple of questions at Love Systems and thought it would be a good idea to share the responses here. The question was, “Isn’t it unethical to teach men how to “seduce” women using lines and routines? Shouldn’t men just act natural?”
This hits on something I talk about all the time as it relates to how professional dating instructors teach. There is hypocrisy in that we advertise and teach a logical system for attracting women, because the truth is that what we teach isn’t totally logical. The logical pieces are mostly for the men, lines can work because they give men confidence to approach, not because women “fall” for them.View full article →
Throughout the years, Love Systems and Playboy have had a great relationship.We used to host seminars at the playboy mansion regularly (I was invited myself back in 2009), we’ve written many articles for their website, and even invited their writers to attend our seminars.