Nick Savoy Teaches the Art of the Pickup to Girls Gone Wild Magazine

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The Art of the Pickup
By Nick Savoy


THE BASICS

If you’re serious about improving your game with women, I strongly urge you to check out my downloadable e-book Magic Bullets. If you’re going to a bar or club tonight and don’t have time to download and read the entire book, or even the free chapters, here is one simple plan that can work for most new guys.

(This is by no means like the full power of the Love Systems approach, but if you’ve only got ten minutes before you go out tonight, it’s a lot better than not having a plan at all.)
 


When You First Arrive
Act like you own the place. Keep your head high, walk slowly, and smile. If you’re with friends, have fun, joke around with them, be loud and get noticed. Do NOT wander around scanning for prospects. High status men don’t look for the party – they ARE the party.
 


APPROACHING
When you see a group of two or three women, pretend to “spontaneously” notice them and ask a question they’ll enjoy giving an opinion on. Here are some examples (though you can and should make similar “opinion openers” that work just as well):

“I’m planning my friend’s birthday party and I’m trying to decide between an 80s theme and a jungle theme. What do you think?”

“My friend keeps getting anonymous emails from a secret admirer but he thinks he knows who it is. Should he say something?”
 


TRANSITIONING
Once they are answering your “opinion” question, cut them off by noticing something about them, such as “You look like you’d be a schoolteacher,” or “It seems that you [pick one woman] are the good one and you [the other woman] are the bad one. Right?” Do this BEFORE you talk about 80s parties or anonymous emails to death, and the conversation becomes stale. Noticing something is one (easy) way to change the subject and get into a “normal conversation.”
 


ATTRACTION
The first two steps should take at most a minute or two to break the ice. Now it’s time to get attraction. This is a complicated subject, but these techniques are the easiest to use:

  • Tease her (playfully; don’t be mean) – give her a nickname.

  • Tell good stories. Funny is good.


Convey “presence” – talk slowly and deliberately, don’t fidget or make any unnecessary movements, and don’t let yourself be interrupted.

Smile and convey a playful attitude and that you are having fun, even if women try to knock you off your game (hot women will “test” any guy they feel attracted to).

Lead. You will be doing about 80% of the talking here. Awkward silences are death. Say ANYTHING instead of nothing.

Don’t turn it into an interview. Too many questions will bore her. Turn questions you are dying to ask into statements. So instead of “where are you from?” say “you look like you’re from Michigan (or wherever).” It doesn’t matter if you’re wrong.
 


QUALIFICATION
When she’s giving you signs that she’s interested, make her earn your interest. Before you go out, think of three things (other than looks) that you want in a woman. Find out if she has these. High-value men are the choosers. They don’t go for any girl just because she’s pretty because getting an attractive woman interested is no big deal for them. By finding out if she meets your criteria, you can mostly imitate the “choosing” process used by men who are naturally successful with women.

(The full Qualification process is a bit more detailed than this; learn it in Magic Bullets.)
 


COMFORT
This is where you’ll spend most of your time. The first four stages should take about 30 minutes, tops. Now it’s time to tone down the teasing and high energy of the Attraction phase and really get to know each other. Ask personal questions, tell stories, etc.

Most men are naturally good enough at the Comfort phase – their problem is that they to put it first, before mutual attraction is established.

This is also the phase where you’d get her phone number. But don’t leave right after getting her number – stick around at least another five minutes to solidify it...

... or continue onto the next phase (Seduction) and make something happen tonight.
 


SEDUCTION
Seduction requires being along with her. Easier said than done when her friends are at the club with her or she doesn’t want to feel “easy” by going home with the first night. At Love Systems, we use the Avoid-Blur-Distract model, which there isn’t time to into here. In general, avoid “state breaks” – jarring interruptions when a woman has to consciously think about the possibility that she is on the road to having sex with you. So she might come home with you to “borrow a book” but not “to go have sex.” Two good techniques for getting through state breaks are talking a lot, and leading. When it’s time to take her home, take her hand and say “let’s get out of here” and lead her to your car. Talk the whole time. Deep down, she knows what’s coming, but it preserves “plausible deniability” in her mind, which is important for a lot of women who want to be properly seduced but don’t want to feel too “easy.”

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