Girls Gone Wild Nov 2009

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Dating

A good date is one that advances your relationship goals. If you want her to beyour girlfriend, plandates that let you really get to know each other. If you want to move quicker to a sexual relationship, you’ll want a higher-energy date that you can plan to end back at your place at the end of the night. Which brings us to…

 



Planning
Planning a date is up to you. One, she’ll appreciate it. Have everything planned and prepared. Include backup plans if necessary. Being taken out is very attractive to a woman. I sometimes take this a step further and tell a woman, jokingly, that it’s none of her business where we’re going and that all she needs to know is what kind of shoes to wear.

Two, you can plan the date to your advantage. For example, always plan to have her meet you at your place
before you go out. Why? So that you are guaranteed that she’ll come back to your place – at least for a moment – at the end of the night.

 


Different
Plan something she hasn’t done over and over. BAD date include “going for coffee”, or worse still “dinner and a movie”. Think converts, festivals, comedy clubs, gallery openings, etc. But definitely don’t overdo it for the first few dates.


External Stimulation
Take her where the environment is stimulating and where conversation isn’t your primary source of entertainment.  This is another problem with “dinner” or “coffee”.  All the pressure is on you to be interesting (with a near-stranger) and if she gets bored she will think YOU are boring.  When there is external entertainment and stimulation, it becomes much easier to be a good conversationalist.  Think of going shopping or wine tasting instead of taking her for dinner and drinks. 


Interaction
Make the date about a shared experience, not about a common experience enjoyed more-or-less independently.  Another vote for a comedy club (where you can talk and interact) over a dinner date.


Excitement
Take her through a range of sensations or emotions.  For example, at a show, she can be laughing, scandalized, or amused.  Playing frisbee , she could be out of breath and excited.  She could be entranced, offended, and visually stimulated at a gallery opening.  Plan dates from the perspective of leading her through different emotions.


Your Turf
Invite her to come along to something you are already doing and knowledgeable about.  You will naturally assume the powerful, dominant position.  Inviting her to “tag along” to something you and your friends would be doing anyway is great, as long as she doesn’t bring friends of her own you need to occupy. 


Embracing CoupleMultiple Venues
Speed up her emotional clock by going to a lot of different places on your date.  Multiple venues make her feel like she’s spent more time with you and knows you better.  A date that starts with window shopping and then includes a bite to eat, browsing a bookstore and a trip to a comedy club should make a woman feel like she’s known you for a lot longer than just one date.


Logistics
Plan the logistics so that it’s reasonable for her to come to your house.  For example, pick activities near where you live.  Or if you’ve been doing any physical activity, go home “to change.”  Or like I said earlier, have her meet you at your place before you go out- that way her car will be there and you know that at some point you’ll both need to return there.


Nights
Nighttime dates are far more likely to lead to sex.  Even though the human sex drive is actually highest in the afternoon, most people are culturally attuned to associate sex with night-time, so wait until it’s dark.

 

How to Date
Enjoy yourself at whatever activity you are doing.  In most situations, the focus should be on the activity, not on her.  For example, if you are shopping, don’t be afraid to wander around the store by yourself for a minute, and don’t be affective if she does the same. If there are other people you know in the same venue, talk with them. Introduce your date. The more you act as if the date is a big deal that requires you to change your behavior, the lower your social value will be for her.


Kissing and Sexual Escalation
Establishing the right game early in your date is important. There is always a subtext on a date of how far the two if you will go physically. Trust me, she’s already thought about this and made some preliminary decisions before the date even started. Do not let the big tension on the date ne about whether you are going to kiss at the end of the night. Get the kiss over with early.

This will help you later in the date, since neither of you will be thinking of kissing as a big deal or an uncertain issue. You’d rather a woman be wondering whether she wants her clothes to come off then whether she wants to kiss you. Waiting until the end of the date and then going for the kiss is a weak move and will likely be typical of other men that she has dated and rejected. Make her think that you’ll kiss her when you feel like it, not when you’ve run out of time and this is your last chance.

 

 

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