Approach went great but she say's "I have a boyfriend"

Do you think “I have a boyfriend” means rejection? If so, I’m about to give you a HUGE improvement in your game – all in one place.

Three good reasons why:

1/ Many women (especially very attractive women) say that they have a boyfriend when they don’t. It’s part test, part reflex.

2/ Even if she has a boyfriend, you can often get her anyway if you use Love Systems. (That’s your own ethical decision to make.)

3/ Even if she has a boyfriend and you don’t get with her, attached women make the best wing-women.

We’ll cover each of these after the jump. But first, some quick housekeeping:


BIG ANNOUNCEMENT

He’s tougher to book than Lady Gaga, but underground pickup celebrity Mr. M is now confirmed for the exclusive Playboy Mansion Bootcamp next weekend (July 22-23).

This special bootcamp has been marked full on the Pickup Artist Calendar for weeks. We keep low student:instructor ratios so that everyone gets tons of personal attention. But with Mr. M joining us, I’ll add two more seats right after I send this.

If it wasn’t the Advanced Bootcamp at the Playboy Mansion, the instructor team we’ve put together would be overkill. I’m leading it. Braddock will be teaching. Future will be teaching. Daxx will be teaching. And, oh yeah, that Mr. M guy.

[Mr. M has become an underground pickup celebrity after the book Myths and Masters of the Game came out a few months ago. Myths and Masters is the unofficial sequel to The Game written by respected international journalist Adam Brown and is a no holds-barred look at the pickup community for the last few years. The upshot is the guy has been booked solid for months.]

Click the link below for the Playboy Mansion details and agenda. If you’re interested, act fast because I can only add two more spots:

http://www.lovesystems.com/training-programs/advanced-bootcamp

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SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND?

Never ask if she has a boyfriend. Even if she asks if you have a girlfriend.

Some women just say they have a boyfriend to every guy they meet. It’s a reflex or a filter. They know this will get rid of insecure or inexperienced guys – but that confident and high-value men will stick around.

For an example, click the link below to check out my “Field Report: Twins” (about halfway down the page once you click the link):

http://therealsavoy.com/2007/09/ridiculously-awesome-week.html


The first time she says she has a boyfriend, the easiest thing to do is to ignore it. Just keep doing whatever you were doing. If you show that you’re not threatened by this (and that you’ve been with hot women before so you’re used to it), you’ll pass her ‘test.’

For bonus points, if you’ve got a fun, flirty dynamic going on, you can also borrow this routine from the great PUA Future (who will also be at the Playboy Mansion next weekend):

HER: I have a boyfriend.
FUTURE: Does he treat you well?
HER: Yes.
FUTURE: Oh. [short pause] I wouldn’t.

Wait for her to laugh or playfully hit your arm or whatever and then carry on with a new thread.

One thing NOT to do is start trying to figure out if she really has a boyfriend or not. There’s no clever way to do this. And if you show that you’re still hung up on this boyfriend thing, she’ll lose attraction. Don’t worry – eventually her status will become obvious. But you might have to wait a bit.

Besides, for especially hot women a boyfriend isn’t always a boyfriend. (“9 and 10 game” really is different from regular game in some important ways – something we’re also going to be covering at the Playboy Mansion obviously.) Especially hot women have so many men competing for their attention that even if there’s not a real boyfriend, there could easily be a “placeholder boyfriend” or a “Mr. Right Now.” It’s an aspect of Female Psychology that’s different from male psychology.

In other words – if she says she has a boyfriend, it doesn’t matter if it’s true or not. Just keep doing what you were doing anyway. It’s the easiest test in the world to pass.

One exception – if she bring up a boyfriend very early on, or in a way that doesn’t fit with the flow of the conversation, when she doesn’t seem to be attracted to you – that’s her telling you to slow down. Like always, it might be true or it might not. But the message is: “I’m putting up a barrier here because you’re going too quickly.” No problem – slow it down, let her get more attracted to you, and proceed as normal.


But what if the boyfriend is real and important?

If she keeps bringing up the boyfriend, then he’s probably real. You can still get the girl, but you’ve got to be good at Love Systems. Or if her boyfriend is there – well, that’s usually a different story. It can still be done, but unless she’s the only woman for a thousand miles, it might not be worth the effort.

But even in that situation – DO NOT WALK AWAY.

Attached women make great wing-women. A lot of them miss the flirting and the thrill of the chase. They can’t do it themselves, but they can be part of it with you. So sometimes I’ll say something like:

SAVOY: Well, since you’ve ruined my plan of getting together with the most absolutely beautiful and interesting woman in [CITY] tonight by going off and getting married five years ago, you’re going to have to make this up to me...

HER: [Doesn’t matter what she says – it’s usually “Oh, really?” or “And how do I do that?”]

SAVOY: You’re now responsible for my backup plan – to meet the second most beautiful and interesting and cool woman in [CITY]. I’ll still be crying into my pillow for months that you’re taken, but I guess with therapy I’ll be able to move on. What do you think of that blonde by the bar?

Either she’ll go meet that blonde for you, or (more likely) she’ll come with you when you approach her. Opinion openers are great here, because you ask Ms. Blonde to “settle an argument” you are supposedly having with Ms. Attached Woman. Your wing-woman will play along.

Notice also the over-the-top compliments to your attached woman. You can do this if you have acknowledged a very real boundary – like that she’s married – and that you are obviously no longer hitting on her. It comes across as playful and sweet instead of creepy. Your tone should convey both sincerity and that you know you’re being slightly ridiculous at the same time.

You can do all of this in front of the boyfriend. Done right, it’s a compliment to him.

I’ve had married and attached women get me the girl with me hardly doing any work myself. One of our bootcamp clients picked up a magazine model in New York City after his instant-wing-woman kept telling Ms. Model that if she wasn’t married, she’d be all over him. This happens over and over.

Enjoy!

- Nick (Savoy)

NB: In case you missed it, here’s the Playboy Mansion agenda. If you have any questions, call Jeremy our program manager at +1 (323) 836 – 0150 or 1-800-680-0821.

http://www.lovesystems.com/training-programs/advanced-bootcamp

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