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Do you want to have regular sex with attractive women - without commitment? It's really about being good at three things:
There's no way we can cover any of those in depth in one article, so use this as a troubleshooting guide to see where you can improve. I'll include lots of links.
Let's get started!
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS RULE #1 - Obviously, you need to meet and attract women.
It doesn't matter if you meet her at a bar, coffee shop, or through friends, you need to create attraction.
But it's not just any kind of attraction. If she sees you as a potential boyfriend, she might hold off with you to keep you interested - even if she's having sex with someone else.
(Put it this way. Most young attractive women are having sex with someone. If it's not you, who?)
The kind of attraction you want will come from:
Teasing: Raises her energy and buying temperature
Role-Plays: Great for sexualizing the conversation without being sleazy
Rock-solid Presence: Different women look for different things in a boyfriend. But for a friend with benefits, they want the alpha male.
... and most of all:
Strong Body Language and Physical Escalation: Most women want to be seduced, not propositioned. Your body language, the rhythm of your voice, and how you touch her (appropriately, in public) are crucial for her to be sexually attracted to you.
(If this is an area you can improve, take a minute to check this out - it's guaranteed to TURBOCHARGE your PHYSICAL ESCALATION / KINO, your BODY LANGUAGE, and your NON-VERBAL COMMUNICATION: Beyond Words - The Art of Body Language and Physical Escalation)
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS RULE #2 - Set her expectations
Like I said in my relationship management DVD course, "relationship management begins before you sleep with her."
The course covers getting a long-term girlfriend, multiple simultaneous girlfriends, friends with benefits, and one-night stands, but setting expectations is especially important if you want a friend with benefits.
There is a right way and a wrong way to do this.
The wrong way is to be blatant. If you tell a woman, "Hey, I just want to be clear, this is just sex; I don't want you to get the wrong idea," you may lose her even if she originally wanted the exact same thing as you. She may feel devalued, like you're just using her or you don't think she’d be good enough to date.
One of the top dating coaches in the world by the name of Braddock solved this problem by introducing a false barrier when things get hot and heavy. He'll say something like, "Wait... are you going to be the 'what are we?' girl after this? [quick pause] Oh my God, you are, aren't you?" She'll rush to object that she's cool and not a drama queen, etc. Without making her feel awkward, you've set expectations.
But some women still will be crazy - check out What Crazy Looks Like Via Text Messaging.
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS RULE #3 - Be Good in Bed
It's sort of an obvious one, and this isn’t a sex tips newsletter. But if you are looking for proven help in that area, check out Ascension - created by people who make women go wild with pleasure for a living (adult film performers).
There's a special deal for the Love Systems community, and we've also added some exclusive Love Systems content:
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BONUS 5 QUICK HITS
A few simple things that can also help. These aren't as big factors as the three we just covered, but every advantage helps:
And finally - if you're not looking for a friend with benefits and you just want to get an awesome girlfriend - that's great! This year's Super Conference in October (where everyone who is serious about dating science gets together) will have a full module on how to get a girlfriend, and I'm going to put together a detailed email about that soon. So stay tuned!
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