- Live Training
- About Us
- Dating Advice
Are you “the friend”?
The “nice guy”?
Do you get good conversations and the occasional phone number, but it doesn’t go further?
If you do, relax. There’s nothing wrong with you. This is normal for men, especially more intelligent or “left-brain” sorts. Talking to a woman you don’t know and making the conversation romantic or sexual is NOT a skill most of us are born with.
But it can be learned. Ready?
Step 1: It’s up to you
Sometimes women will drive things sexual. She’ll start touching you or hinting about better logistics (e.g., “What are you doing later?” or “What do you want to do next?”).
But usually the responsibility is on you, the man. Most women are used to being seduced instead of seducing. So if you don’t push things in a sexual direction, don’t expect it to happen.
This is true for a lot of things about women and dating. Not only do women want a man who can seduce them, they want a man who is the “alpha male” in every aspect of their life. Alpha male is a term that’s often misused or misunderstood.
Listen to top pickup artists Mr. M and Braddock talk about what it truly means to be an "alpha male" when meeting women. Everything you need to know in about an hour:
Step 2: Touch early, touch often
You can’t talk your way into a woman’s bed. Or her heart. At least not very quickly.
Sure, talking is important – that’s how people become emotionally comfortable with each other. But a woman who is emotionally comfortable with you but not physically comfortable is a woman who is about to say:
“Let’s Just Be Friends”
Let me repeat that again, in nice italics and asterisks everywhere, because this is important:
*** If you don’t make a physical connection, any emotional connection you make with a woman is just going to lead to “Let’s Just Be Friends.” ***
Next time you’re out, watch two people who are obviously attracted to each other. See how often they touch each other. Notice the rhythm. It’s almost a conversation in itself. In fact, we call this the “physical conversation” and it is the single truest guide to how a pickup is going.
Your goal involves sex at some point with her. Most of the time, you’re not going to go from “first touch” to sex in a few minutes. So the earlier you start getting her comfortable with your touch, the more time you leave for that to escalate, the more likely she is to be comfortable.
Or, put more crudely – the first time you touch each other isn’t going to be you putting yourself inside her. There’s a buildup, especially for women. Start small, like touching each other on the shoulders, arms, or upper back, as a normal part of conversation.
I know, I know. This is easier said than done. It takes skill to be able to walk up to a woman who is with her friends, ignore their efforts to shut you down, start an interesting and compelling conversation with them, AND get the physical conversation rolling.
But you have to.
We did a very special, one-off seminar a while back JUST focused on body language and physical escalation. We brought all of the biggest names together. Cajun. Vercetti. Keychain. 5.0. Legends in the “pick up artist community”. Then we hired a few models for demonstrations, invited a few lucky people, and let the magic happen.
These step-by-step breakdowns of exactly how to escalate physically and what NOT to do (almost as important!) were so popular, we first did a limited edition DVD set, and when that was gone, we made a few more.
Click below to learn more about the secrets of body language and physical escalation and this special DVD Home Study course:
Step 3: Words count too
Just because you “can’t talk your way into her bed or her heart,” doesn’t mean that you can stand there completely silent and mute either.
Introducing sexual themes into a conversation – and making her comfortable talking about sex – is one of the CRUCIAL differences between her seeing you as a Man or as a Friend.
There are tons of different ways to sexualize the conversation. I’ll touch on three of the most common:
Getting stuck in the friend zone, or having “nice conversations” that don’t lead anywhere – this is a normal sticking point that most men have at some point to another. It’s also very fixable once you have the right direction and know exactly what to do.
The Best Pick Up Artists of 2010
Every year, there’s a lot of excitement as “the community” votes on the top pick up artists and dating coaches of the year. It ends up being pretty important, because these are the guys we hear the most from in the next year.
E.g., I don’t know if we’d have all the great “Day Game” techniques today if Jeremy Soul hadn’t been voted the #1 PUA of the year two years ago. At the time, few had heard of him – other than students who worked with him or people who watched his videos or read his writings. Now the Jeremy Soul Day Game method is so popular, his book Daytime Dating: Never Sleep Alone became an instant classic.
Starting in the next LSI, I’m going to reveal the votes – from guys just like yourself. There are definitely a few surprises on their way…
|Rules for "Friends with Benefits" < Prev||Next > Want an Open Relationship? Here's the How To|
Get the shocking free report
Top 10 Mistakes Men Make With Women