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A party is not a nightclub.
If you’re used to dressing to stand out (“peacocking”), tone it down for holiday parties. Think “one interesting item” – something that represents you that women can ask you about.
For example – I wear a neck chain with an emblem that represents the city I’m from. It’s distinctive enough that it (and thus I) gets attention, but fashionable enough that it doesn’t look like I’m trying too hard.
There’s a reason for this. When a woman asks me about it (and she will, eventually, either as an excuse to start talking to me or at some point during the conversation), it gives me a chance to tell her about me. This invites her to do the same. We’re building attraction and comfort.
This doesn’t mean you can wear khakis-and-a-button-down-tucked-in-shirt to holiday parties along with your One Interesting Item. Dress fashionably.
And by “fashionably” I do NOT mean like a fashion magazine. Dress to pick up beautiful women. Check out the fashion and style section of the Attraction Forums and the chapter on Fashion (with photos) in the downloadable eBook Magic Bullets to get the inside information:
Continuing on the “parties are not nightclubs” theme...
At a nightclub, bar, coffee shop, or mall, you usually have only one chance to meet someone. You have to approach her and seize her attention.
Two of the best-known ways to do this are “Indirect” and “Direct.”
Indirect can be an opinion opener, like “Hey... do you think it can ever be okay to break up with someone by text message?” It starts a conversation and should lead into a story about why you’re asking, and then a Transition, and into a conversation where you can get to know each other and build attraction.
In contrast, a Direct opener could be as simple as: “You’re got a very compelling look... I had to come over and see what you were like. I’m Savoy.”
Now here’s one of the secrets that experienced guys know:
The first thing you say is called the “Opener.” The second thing you say is called the “Transition.” The transition is key to getting past the awkward first few seconds and into a “normal conversation” where you can start building attraction.
** IMPORTANT **
If Direct and Indirect Openers and Transitions to normal conversations aren’t things you’ve mastered, you’re doing a disservice to yourself. This information is in Chapters 5 and 6 of my book, Magic Bullets, and you can download them without any charge:
Now, here’s where a holiday party is different:
DON’T go direct. DON’T go indirect. Unless the party is so big or so few people know each other that it’s basically like a nightclub anyway.
It sounds like something you’d do when you’re a kid, but don’t be afraid to involve your friends. If I see someone I’m interested in, I might find someone who knows her to introduce us. If that’s not an option, remember that at parties people are SUPPOSED to meet people. “Hi, I’m Savoy,” works just fine.
Just remember what I said before... the first thing doesn’t really matter, but the second thing does. So, make sure you know what you’re going to say once she answers with “Hi, I’m Julie.” A big “Ummmm... so what do you do?” isn’t going to cut it.
[Update: Reading this over one last time before I mail it out, I just want to make sure it’s clear... the “second thing” – what you say to her after “hi” – is the Transition. The free chapters from Magic Bullets explain this more and give you examples you can use tonight.]
In any situation, there are two ways to build attraction. The most important way is through your conversation with her. The other way is through your interaction with your environment.
(We’re not going to cover “how to attract a woman” from scratch here. At the end of this email, I’ll point you to the right resources.)
At a party, your conversation with her is still the most important thing. But, how you interact with your environment is even more important than at a nightclub.
Assume that everyone at the party knows each other or knows people in common. The impression you make on EVERYONE is important. So, the moment you walk into the party, your interaction with EVERY woman at the party begins.
At a nightclub, you can get away with hanging out by yourself, doing some warm-up approaches, waiting for your friends to arrive or the place to get busy, and so on.
Not at a party. The flip side of “You’re Supposed to Meet People” that I was just talking about is, well, you’re supposed to meet people.
In other words, when you’re at a party, you’re not doing 5 separate approaches of the 5 most desirable women there. You’re creating an image or impression of yourself so that she is already predisposed to being intrigued by you when you start talking to her.
Let’s get specific:
It’s a bit of a mind shift for a lot of guys, so I’ll repeat it again:
The No Bull@)(~ Guide to Attraction
If you are consistently attracting women, you can skip this section. If you’re not, then I have good news and bad news for you.
The Good News: Attracting a desirable woman is actually fairly easy, can be done consistently by virtually any man, and usually takes less than twenty minutes.
The Bad News: Women get attracted all the time. Attraction by itself – without the Love Systems techniques like Qualification (see our interview on the subject as well as the follow up Issues in Qualification) to “solidify” the attraction – doesn’t usually get you very far.
Still, before you solidify attraction, you have to have attraction, so let’s start there:
The book Magic Bullets gives the secrets for attracting women. Attraction does NOT work the way most men think. A man is “attracted” or “not attracted” to a woman. It’s an on/off button. We talk about “building attraction” with women because women do NOT work the same way. It’s more like filling a glass with water.
Chapter 7 of Magic Bullets reveals the secrets:
Finally, some guys have asked us for a deep, detailed, and specific look at the various tools you can use to build attraction. Sort of half-way between the theory from Magic Bullets and the scripts from the Routines Manual. In these downloadable audio volumes, we take one specific way of creating attraction and go through explaining how and why it works and give tons of examples so you can use these tonight. Each of these takes about an hour to listen to:
Takeaways and Boundaries (Braddock and Daxx)
Handling Tests (Soul)
Humor (Cajun and Braddock)
Role Plays (Tenmagnet and Cajun)
Teasing (Braddock and Dahunter)
Cold Reads (Savoy and The Don)
Storytelling (Sinn and Future)
All of these have the usual full money-back guarantee so there’s no risk to you. Listen to them, and if you don’t think each was worth every penny, just let me know and I’ll make sure you get a full refund.
Go into 2010 with all of the tools to attract beautiful women. It won’t get you the girl every time, but you’re a heck of a lot closer if you can.
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