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I hear this question all the time from guys new to Love Systems. Having a life full of girls who are interested in you isn't all that difficult if you know what to do and you're willing to put in the time. Contrary to what you might have heard, you don't need to be rich or good-looking to get girls. It helps, but it's only one small part of attraction.
The website LoveSystems.com is full of specific, practical tips to get a girl interested, to start the conversation, to flirt, to seduce, and so on. This article, instead, will focus on four of the broader issues that stand in the way of a lot of guys:
1 - Go out and meet girls. Go where girls are. You're not going to meet them playing World of Warcraft or hanging out in your bedroom. Meeting women online is fine, but only if it's a supplement to meeting women in regular life. If you must meet girls online, make yourself a rule before you start never to talk to girls outside of your city. We all know "that guy" who's always talking to girls thousands of miles away and maybe even planning a trip. It really rarely works out.
Invest in people who can put you in front of lots of girls. Girls who you are just friends with can often introduce you to their friends. Guys who throw a lot of parties, go to a lot of events, or know a lot of people often make good friends as well.
2 - Don't let yourself make excuses. There are a million reasons you can give yourself not to go out and meet girls, not to socialize, or not to start talking to the girl you want. But that's all they are: excuses. Banish them from your life. Remember the saying: "failure weighs ounces; regret weighs tons."
There are always ways around your excuses if you want something badly enough. If you don't have the money for a night on the town, tell your friends that you'll be the designated driver if they pay your cover charge. If you want to approach a girl you see at a party or on the street, it doesn't matter if you don't know her or don't have the perfect opening line (though the Love Systems Routines Manual is great for giving you, word-for-word, what the most successful guys in the world actually use on girls when they meet). Anything is better than nothing. "Hi, I'm Joe; I was curious to meet you," is just fine when you can't think of anything.
Girls won't usually approach you; you have to approach them.
3 - Don't expect perfection. From yourself or from the girls you meet. Even Love Systems instructors - the top experts in the world in the field of picking up beautiful women – don't have perfect nights or perfect dates. There's always something that can be improved.
In fact, when you're surfing around the Love Systems website, you'll come across more specific and useful dating advice than you'll ever be able to learn in a month, let alone a day. Take it slow, bite by bite. Integrate a new piece of knowledge or technique and then move on to the next one.
Don't beat yourself up or feel bad about every failure. Let's say you walk up to a girl and start talking, but she doesn't like you. So what? After a minute or two, she hasn't even had the chance to get to know you. She might be rejecting your "game" or your approach, but these are technical skills that you can learn from Love Systems. She can't reject you or who you are.
4 - Broaden your hobbies and social life. Get out of your comfort zone - this will help train your social muscles and help you deal with social anxiety or inhibitions. For example, take a dance class - most of the people there will be girls, and most of the guys will be gay or have no game. You don't have to be any good - just be enthusiastic and have fun. Girls respond to emotions, and emotions are contagious. Or volunteer somewhere - it'll do you good AND put you on the path of other girls, and/or people who can introduce you to cute girls.
Broadening your life isn't only to meet more girls - it's to help you keep them. Meet a cute girl somewhere and she'll think it's great that you volunteer. Ask her out some night and surprise her by taking her dancing. Girls love dancing. Introduce her to all of your new friends - people who you don't know from school or work but who know you from being such a well-rounded and interesting person.
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