Dating Advice - Inner Game
One problem I see at every live workshop, almost every 1-on-1, and whenever I meet someone in the community, is that men are very good at coming up with excuses why not to improve their game. Huh? Don't they want to improve their game? Of course they do!
Everyone knows how important inner game is, but have you ever stopped to ask yourself what inner game actually is? Is it simply when you've memorized material very well or maybe when you've perfected the delivery of your voice? Actually, inner game is...
When we go out and teach live PUA workshops, we see a lot of sticking points over and over again. One of the foremost of these is the lack of volume in a student or amateur pickup artist's voice. You can be the best pickup artist in the world, but if she can't hear you, your chances drop dramatically.
Being reactive will kill your game. Life is a lot like chess. We always think that we are making the best move, so generally it's not the move that's really wrong, it's the thought process that led to the move. This is why two people could use Love Systems material and yet won't have the same results. It's not the material, it's the thought process
When I first entered the dating community I was excited, and not because I was fooling myself by hoping to find a few magic lines that would trick women into liking me. I was excited because I finally felt like it was in my control, for the first time in my life, to determine the quality (and amount) of women that would be in my life.
Here are some issues that often plague the beginner, and can really hold someone back if they're not addressed. I suffered from these myself, and once I dealt with them I felt like my game went to a whole new level, and I had much more fun going out and practicing.
Virginia Satir once said that the most basic human instinct is not toward survival, but toward the familiar. In other words, the thing that we are most likely to do is rarely concerned with our survival (or procreation). It's just the thing we are most comfortable doing.
I've been doing a lot of reading on psychology and spirituality recently and I've developed an idea that's reduced my approach anxiety by about 90%. The idea is surrendering to the moment.
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