“Tyra takes an inside look at the secret world the men in your life can’t stop talking about. It’s called “Love Systems” and its experts fly around the world teaching their secret techniques to win women’s hearts. Is it manipulative, or is all fair in love and war? Tyra takes you there, learning exactly what these men are teaching, and talking to women about their experiences meeting men trained in Love Systems.”
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Whew. There’s a lot I’m not allowed to say about the show until it airs on Friday, but I’ll share some stuff here:
They recorded lots of “insider” footage of us teaching Love Systems and guys actually doing live approaches, and they even interviewed the girls too. (We didn’t know they were going to do that part...)
They have about ten hours of footage. What they decide to air is anyone’s guess.
It’s kind of funny that this is the week that the Tyra Banks Show airs, because just a few days ago noted female writer and columnist Emily McCombs also wrote about her insider experiences with Love Systems.
On one hand, it’s been proven again and again and again (and again and again) that Love Systems makes a man more attractive to women. That’s why Tyra Banks and the supermodels of the world want to talk to us.
On the other hand, what hasn’t been explored as much is WHY women respond so well to Love Systems techniques.
Part of this has to do with how Love Systems developed. Our biggest rule is to focus on what actually works in the real world, through real world testing. Our team of about 25 of the best dating coaches in the world has approached a combined number of over 100,000 women using Love Systems techniques over the past six years. That’s a lot of experience and a lot of data.
If real world data conflicts with the theory, we change the theory instead of trying to explain away stuff that doesn’t fit. Sometimes we don’t even know why some of our techniques work. That’s okay. There are academics in both Europe and the U.S. studying Love Systems who are trying to answer those questions.
But, Emily McCombs wanted to see for herself. Sitting in on a bootcamp led by Love Systems expert The Don, she took in the introductory parts of the first couple hours of the seminar and tried to evaluate them for herself.
Last week, I attended Day 1 of the Love Systems PUA Bootcamp (they've been doing these since the release of The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women into Bed), where some of the world's best pick-up artists teach techniques to help hapless dudes "attract beautiful women in any situation." As a huge fan of "The Game," I was psyched to get a window into the insulated world of the master PUA [Pick-Up Artist].
Although I was prepared to be grossed out by mouth-breathing nerds, most of the bootcamp attendees were relatively good-looking and seemingly socially adjusted. And while I would never have gone home with any of these guys knowing that they were using their pick-up voodoo on me, I have to admit that a lot of the routines, as delivered by the experienced instructors, would totally have worked on me in a bar...
I found myself nodding in agreement enough to know that at least some of the knowledge imparted could actually be useful in helping you attract women. And as an official owner of two X chromosomes, who better to judge than me?
1. The knob/switch attraction theory.
For men, attraction is a switch that can be switched on and off. You see a woman and you are either attracted to her or you're not and once the switch is flipped on, it's not likely to flip off again. Even if you approach and find out she has a laugh like Fran Drescher and the IQ of a cheese sandwich, you're still going to want to have sex with her.
Women, on the other hand, have more of an attraction knob. You approach, we're neutral. You say something clever, the knob turns up a little. You mention Dave Matthews Band is your favorite group, and the knob goes way down. The good news for you is that while our fates are mostly sealed by our hip-to-waist ratios, your attitude can change our opinions of you at any time, and attraction can grow.
2. You only have three seconds to approach.
Whether we show it or not, we women always notice when you hover around trying to work up the nerve to say something. From the moment you notice a girl with interest, you have approximately three seconds to actually approach her before you start to seem both creepy and gutless.
3. Talk a lot.
According to dubious but oft-quoted statistics, women speak about 20,000 words a day and men speak only about 7,000. Whatever the exact numbers, women are certainly known for being more communicative than guys. And, we're guessing the strong, silent types rarely picked up women at bars. So, be prepared to talk way more than is natural for you during the pick-up process.
4. Rejection isn't personal.
You would never let a stranger convince you that you're bad at your job, would you? So why let the same stranger make you feel unattractive or unlikable? Maybe she's having a bad night and wants to be left alone, maybe she has a boyfriend or maybe she's just not interested in you. But whatever the case, she doesn't know you and her rejection isn't an indicator of your value.
Okay, I'll admit this sounded kind of sexist at first, but I am 100 percent behind the idea of dudes manning up and taking control in a date situation. That means don't make her figure out where you're going to go and what you're going to do on a date; have a plan.
7. The "yes and" approach.
Whenever a woman tries to say something negative or tease you, agree with her. For example:
Her: "That shirt makes you look gay."
You: "That's because I am super-gay. I made out with like 20 guys already tonight."
Her: "Is that your pickup line?"
You: "Yes, my mom gave me two. Is it working?"
You become unputdownable. Rejection cannot touch you!
In this society, women hold the power in most romantic interactions. We're the ones who decide if and when sex is going to occur and that gives us the upper hand... until we actually do the deed. And then all the power shifts to you males. So, keep that in mind the next time you think a girl is being standoffish for no reason. We're just protecting ourselves.