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Most men know that it's easier to meet women when you are out with friends than when you're alone. Friends who know that you are trying to meet women and who may be doing the same thing themselves are often called "wingmen" or "wings" in popular culture. Here, we'll keep it simple - men who are working with you to meet women are Friends (capitalized).
The most important thing is to work WITH your Friend, not against him. Your Friend is NOT your competition. If women see you and your Friend tripping each other up or fighting for the same woman, they will assume a few things about you:
The common theme in this stuff is that your Friend reflects on you.
Women use little clues or "tells" to make assumptions about men. Women don't have time to get to know all of the potential mates they run into. So they make assumptions based on the little things that they DO have time to notice about everyone. These assumptions are very powerful even though they are mostly subconscious - often women don't even realize WHY they are attracted to a specific man.
Let's detour through a quick example. Women want successful men. Men realize this, and this is why some of them exaggerate their wealth and status. Most women are hit on so often that they don't listen to every man's story to evaluate whether it seems true. They use shortcuts.
For example, women key in on open body language. Why is this? Men who are successful tend to be self-confident (yes, there are lots of exceptions). Self-confident men tend to have confident, open body language, like holding their heads high or keeping their shoulders back. Body language is always on display and women notice it instantly. So a man with confident body language will attract more women, even though there is nothing inherently attractive about holding your head high or keeping your shoulders back. It's just that women have learned over time that men who do this (or any one of thousands of other indicators of confidence) are more likely to have the deeper characteristics that they are looking for.
What also helps women here is that fewer men know how and why to act with confident body language than know how to exaggerate their incomes. That's why we spend so much time at the bootcamps teaching each student how to express confidence with body language. We teach you to "fake it ‘til you make it" because once you've gotten a bit of success with "faking" confident body language you will develop natural confidence in your abilities with women and you will come across as confident without thinking about it. When you change your behavior, your thoughts and feelings will eventually follow.
Back to our original situation. Women make assumptions about you based on your social circle and friendships. Successful men interact mostly with other successful people. If you're at a restaurant with Brad Pitt, many women will want to meet you. Even if they have no chance at Brad, they'll be curious about someone who is so cool that Brad Pitt counts you among his friends. Contrast this to you going out with a generic-looking accountant (khakis, tucked in shirt, nothing stylish or adventurous). Women will be far less interested in you - even though YOU haven't changed - because they will infer things about you, your friends, and your lifestyle.
All of this goes to explain why you want your Friend to have value when you're out together. Never cut him down. Act around him as if he were a movie star who is also a good friend - as if he were a movie star, and it's totally normal for you to be hanging out with movie stars.
Got it? Good. Now let's look at some specific ways you and your Friend can make each other look great.
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