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Probably quite recently. If you are being truly honest, perhaps even earlier today?
Even though “Approaching” is only a small part of the Love Systems Triad Model, some guys say it’s their biggest challenge when they come to a PUA bootcamp... and are shocked when it’s no longer a problem after a couple hours. It’s actually one of the easiest things they learn during the weekend. I’m going to share some of those secrets here.
Dealing with approach anxiety isn’t just for newbies – it’s also for more experienced guys who might not be pushing their skills as far as they could.
Approach anxiety is normal. It’s the feeling our bodies give us when we take risks. It comes from the same part of the brain (the “amygdala”) that activates when you go bungee-jumping or get on a big roller coaster.
In other words, it’s a sign that you are doing something RIGHT. That you are moving beyond your comfort zone. Even the best guys in the world – top Love Systems instructors – get approach anxiety sometimes, especially on the first approach of the day.
Okay, I know... approach anxiety sure doesn’t FEEL very good when a beautiful woman is walking by. You get nervous and your brain finds a million reasons not to do whatever it thinks is “risky.”
But, it doesn’t have to be like this.
Remember when you were young, before society taught you to follow the pack, keep your head down, and play by all the rules. If you’re like most men, you probably LOOKED for risks: a higher tree to climb, a higher diving board to jump off of, crazy adventures with your buddies, etc...
You CAN get that feeling back, and make approaching FUN.
I’m going to get you started here, in this LSi. When I’m working with clients on a PUA bootcamp or individualized training, they make the biggest gains when combining both the logical and emotional sides of the brain...
... So, first we’re going to hit some of the logical “anchors.” These are what you tell yourself when you’re having trouble approaching. Then I’ll give you some Love Systems winning strategies to help you INTERNALIZE these anchors so that you act on them.
This is only a small fraction of what we can do when we’re face-to-face, but it will definitely get you started.
1. It is part of your DNA – embrace it, don’t fight it!
Learning to ‘overcome’ is like ‘overcoming’ the need to eat or sleep. As a man, you are meant to challenge yourself. Living life within your comfort zone is unnatural and unhealthy – a lack of challenge or excitement in your life can literally lead to being clinically depressed.
How boring would life be if you always knew what was going to happen? To overcome , you need to EMBRACE it. Thrive on it.
2. Nobody can reject you based on a cold approach.
No woman can reject you from your approach. Think about it – she doesn’t know you and has no idea what kind of guy you are when you approach... so, if she blows you out, she is not rejecting you. She can reject your approach, sure, but like Savoy said in the , “a woman can no more reject you for a bad approach than the game of basketball can reject you for a bad shot.” Welcome getting blown out as great FEEDBACK and learn from it... with practice, you will succeed.
You HAVE read Magic Bullets, right? I went from “average guy” to Love Systems bootcamp student to “advanced guy” all the way to Love Systems instructor in part because of what I learned – and kept going back to – from Magic Bullets. It’s $68 and it’s fully guaranteed. Trust me, a lifetime of success with beautiful women is worth it. Seriously, stop here and check it out now
3. Have no regrets...
Let’s say you only see one attractive woman every day and you don’t approach her. Over 10 years, that’s 3,650 missed opportunities. How many hundreds of those have great personalities to match their looks? How many of those would click with you? Unfortunately, you will never know... because you missed them all...
... think about that - does it hurt? It should.
One of Braddock’s favourite quotes: “Failure weighs ounces, regret weighs tons.”
4. You need to filter for women who meet your standards.
You didn’t come to Love Systems so you could get just any girl. That would be like going to Harvard to learn spelling. You came to Love Systems to get the high-quality women who meet your high standards.
And even if you don’t have high standards (why not?), you still need to act like you do. That’s how the Qualification process works, and Qualification is CRUCIAL for picking up women. We don’t have time to go into that now – here are some great places to learn and master Qualification:
If, say, 80% of hot women don’t meet your personality standards, then you have to approach a lot of women to find the ones who are worth your valuable time and energy. Just like you’d look at a lot of jobs, houses, or cars before choosing one, you should do the same with women... and that means approaching and getting to know them.
5. Women love to be approached but 95% of men have no approach game.
As you begin more and more, you will quickly realize that women love to be approached – it flatters and validates their sense of femininity.
Women get approached all the time, but usually by guys who don’t know what they are doing. This is why many women have a “shield” to deter most men from approaching.
Breaking through the shield is one of the first “A-HA” moments most men have with Love Systems. By taking one of the tried-and-proven openers from the (I’d also recommend the newer ), you can see how possible this is, and then be able to use it to sculpt your own material.
I do a lot of Day Game. When I was just starting out, I might get a phone number from one out of every 10 women at best. By making a few tweaks to my approach, that’s now about 8 out of 10. But, there is no way I could do this unless I took a few knocks in the beginning to get the feedback I needed.
London-based Love Systems Instructor Keychain says he lives by what Mahatma Gandhi once said: “You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result.”
6. What does this say about YOU?
The book did us all a service when it went through data of over 100,000 approaches to determine the 8 things that most hot women are looking for in a man. They’re called “attraction switches.”
(Again, if you haven’t read yet, stop what you’re doing and go read it. There’s a reason why year after year the guys who become top swear by it...)
Women look at whether you can successfully approach them as a sign of what kind of man you are. Do you have Social Intelligence? Are you Confident? Are you Pre-Selected? (Those are 3 of the attraction switches.) Men who have all of those things (and the other 5 attraction switches) will not hesitate to approach.
So, if you don’t approach, what do you think this says about you to her?
Now that you know why you should approach, the next step is to make yourself do it.
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Carbeau is a Love Systems Instructor based in Philadelphia, USA. He travels extensively teaching guys how they can transform their lives by adopting the same straightforward techniques that he has learned with Love Systems. Find his full biography (and contact him) here
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