Q: Hi Savoy, I hope you remember me from last year's Super Conference. My name's Tim and we talked after the Saturday session about my divorce and lifestyle and getting back out there.
You'll be really happy to hear that I've done about 90% of what you said! I sold my old house, moved downtown, made a clean break with my ex-wife (except for the check I have to write her every month... ), and started using some of your Social Circle Mastery stuff to rebuild my social life.
Now there's one thing I wanted to get your opinion on: I feel like I'm meeting and connecting with a lot more women now than before, but most of the time I'm not even thinking of techniques or strategies. I just "feel" what to do next. I have met and dated some great women, but I'm wondering if I'm missing opportunities by not actively focusing on all the material I learned. What should I do?
P.N., Davis, CA
[this question was originally sent on The Love Systems Lounge and has been condensed for this Love Systems' insider and used with permission]
We tricked you. You thought you were getting a set of techniques that you could use to get women. Just like if we taught you how to fly an airplane or do calculus.
What you actually got was a new skill. All those drills you did in the practice rooms, all the approaches you did with instructors watching, all the missions and challenges we gave you, were for that reason.
When you practice something enough, practice it the right way, practice it with experts guiding you, it definitely can feel natural, like you "feel" your way through a pickup. It's just like driving a car - you've learned and practiced it enough that you don't need to consciously think about it anymore.
Q: Savoy! My friends and I are big supporters of what you and Love Systems do. I've been following your blog and just started reading the Braddock and Mr. M's book on how to flirt by text, but I have a problem and I need your help.
I went on a date with "Jenny" and it went AMAZING. We talked about everything, stuff that I don't think I've shared with anyone before. We talked and opened up like I've never done before, and we were still there when the restaurant was closing. We must have been there for 4 hours at least. But when I drove her home and tried to kiss her goodnight in my car, she just turned her cheek. I saw her in class on Wednesday and she was a little distant not like usual. I've used some of the texts from the phone and text game book, and she writes back, but the energy seems gone.
What do I do?
Confused and Frustrated
Hi Confused (and Frustrated),
It looks like you made a ton of mistakes. That's NOT a bad thing. If you're going on dates with women you like AND you're making all of these mistakes, just think of how great your life is going to be when you get these fixed.
We don't have time to cover every issue, so let me list some of the big ones and I'll give you links to articles or videos so you can learn more:
If you haven't heard day game's advantages, you've really missed out. Day game is the easiest way to meet beautiful women.
It's simple: see girl, walk up to girl, talk to girl. Get a number and you're set up for a date that night.
Of course, the dozens of guys who sit in on my mini seminars know that girls are more approachable during the day, don't have cock-blocking friends with them or other douchebags around fighting for their attention. I hear it all the time. Nothing new.
However, I've uncovered more huge advantages over the four years I've been approaching women when the sun's up. Here are just three:
I'm a day game instructor, voted #1 by students at last year's Super Conference. I teach day game around the world over 150 days per year.
If you want to know where you can learn more about day game and how to succeed with the women you meet, check out my blog. There are tons of FREE articles there for you to learn from too!
- Nick Hoss