It’s not about the bars and clubs. It’s about a few specialized techniques. I’ve always had a lot of success on Valentine’s – and I’m going to share some of my own personal system... Enjoy!
I don’t recommend most bars and clubs for Valentine’s Day. Unless you’re going to a high-end venue where they keep the ratios good, you’re likely to be surrounded by groups of desperate men and few attractive women.
This kills the vibe and puts a woman on the defensive. She’ll automatically associate you with these guys.
So... if you are going out like this, prepare for LOTS of “tests.” There’s no way a hot woman is going to let herself get picked up on Valentine’s Day without testing you first. Make sure you have great responses to questions like this:
By the way – it’s “responses” not “answers.” Actually answering questions like these is usually the EXACT WRONG way to handle a test. Dating expert Jeremy Soul has produced the best guide for handling tests – it’s about an hour long and you can listen to it right away.
That covers bars and clubs. Parties are usually a much better bet. There ARE parties full of attractive single people happening on Valentine’s Day. There the odds are unbelievably in your favor, since just by knowing people in common, you’ll be “safe” for a hot single woman who might be feeling lonely on Valentine’s Day to go home with.
But, getting connected with high-quality social circles doesn’t happen overnight and would take up the next 20 articles if I let it. The experts on social circle game are Mr. M and Braddock; learn more about their amazing Social Circle Mastery program.
If you don’t have an invite to an A-list nightclub or private party, then start with what you DO have - your phone. Send a text message (SMS) to every attractive woman you might be interested in. Even – ESPECIALLY – women you’ve lost touch with. The “dead phone numbers.”
This text should be simple and “bait” her into responding. For example:
“Happy Valentine’s Day – [Your Name]”
Make sure you put your name in the text message. If you don’t (especially if you’re hitting old phone numbers too), you risk the momentum-killing response “who is this?” (Credit dating expert Braddock in his new book Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game for this nugget – just one of the hundreds of insights, tools, and tips in this now-classic book.)
Some women will respond back. And that’s when the dance starts. Continue, and escalate the conversation. No matter how attracted she was when you first met, you’ll need to rebuild some attraction through text. (If you’re stuck, the Ultimate Guide gives you the scripts to attract women via text chats using hundreds of actual text messages and conversations used by top Love Systems instructors.
These days, with every hot woman plugged into her phone, there’s no excuse for not being good at Phone and Text Game. It’s not a skill you can avoid or cover up if you want to pick up beautiful women.
Anyway, once you’ve got her past the Hook Point, then casually ask her what she’s doing “tonight.” Not “for Valentine’s” – just say “tonight” like it’s any other Sunday.
THIS IS JUST A QUESTION. DO NOT ASK HER OUT.
There are a million different responses you might get, but there’s only one thing that’s important. Either she has firm plans or she doesn’t.
If she doesn’t have firm plans, then invite her out. But not on a date. That’s too weird, especially if you haven’t been in close contact with her. Tell her that you and your friends are going out for a few drinks and invite her to “join up later.”
Ideally you should frame it in a way that implies that it’s a mixed group or she might worry it’s a bunch of lonely guys on the prowl.
People love how The Routines Manual (and Routines Manual 2) and the Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game give the exact wording of the right things to say for any situation, so I’m going to use that approach here.
You: “[Random Content]. So what are you up to tonight?”
Her: “I’m not sure, right now I’m just hanging out.”
You: “Cool, I’m going to a friend’s place for a bit then we’re heading out. She lives in [neighborhood] so we’ll probably go out there. Come join up later!”
Did you notice how the last message is designed to get the word “she” into the text in a way that doesn’t seem forced?
If you’ve rebuilt attraction properly using Dynamite Theory and other powerful techniques (or copy and paste text messages) from the Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game, from here on in it will be about logistics.
She might bring a friend. If so, bring one of your own. If she wonders where “everyone else” is, say something plausible and then transition to a better topic. For example:
“It’s like Valentine’s Day survivor. Jessica’s still there drunk dialing her ex-boyfriend, (she’ll be back in a few), Dave and Kayla went to do some couples stuff and Jay – well let’s just say that Jay shouldn’t drink on an empty stomach. Hey, that reminds me [and go into a funny story – pick one straight from The Routines Manual if you like]...”
Do NOT act like it’s Valentine’s Day or make it all romantic. Go to a bar or club, have some drinks, and have fun. She’s likely planning to sleep with you anyway.
What if she does have plans?
No big deal. You’re not seeing her tonight. But, you can use this opportunity to reconnect with her and see her later/next week...
... IF – and only IF – you keep your line of retreat open. Once she shows you that she’s not coming out, tell her what you’re doing. It should be something you couldn’t have conceivably invited her to, so that your “what are you up to tonight?” is social chatter instead of a rejected Valentine’s date.
You: “[Random Content]. So what are you up to tonight?”
Her: “Going out with friends, you?”
You: “Getting used to being an uncle. I’m in Chicago this weekend; my sister just had a baby!”
“Heading to a party later. But it’s a white party and I have nothing all-white. Might make friends with bleach.”
Continue on with BOTH attraction AND comfort-building through text messages (again, the Ultimate Guide is plug-and-play here) and you should get a few dates lined up for this week – even from women with “dead” phone numbers.
Valentine’s can be a lot of fun. Enjoy it.