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It's that time of year again. Check out this classic article from Braddock on picking up and hooking up on Spring Break - from the Cancun master himself!

Spring Break Pick Up – Basic Introduction

- By Braddock

• Before you go
• At your hotel
• Pre-parties
• At the club: Approaching
• At the club: Taking it to the next level
• Taking her home
• Setting the right frames

If you've ever seen Spring Break or Ibiza or any big festival on TV, you know how filled with beautiful women they are. Combine music, sand, sex, and alcohol, and it should be easy.

So why do so many guys come home frustrated?

Most of the time, it's because they're making things MUCH harder for themselves than they need to be. Like any situation involving women and dating, you can make it hard or you can make it easy. I'm going to show you how to make it easy.

[Note: while this article contains tons of great information that anyone can use on the beaches right away, you'll get the most out of it once you've read the "bible" of dating science, Magic Bullets. This book is the basis for everything we at Love Systems teach and do ourselves. Check out the book here, where you can also download some sample chapters to get you started.]

PART 1 - Before you go...

Your choice of hotel MATTERS. A lot.

There are usually 1 or 2 hotels that are where all the action is and where most of the hot girls will be staying. Call around if you don't know which these are. It's important.

(Don't assume that it's the most expensive hotel – often it's not.)

Doing this gives you three huge advantages.

1. You now have a 24/7 supply of beautiful women to hang out with, either as potential partners or as a mini-social circle so you can attract other women.
2. You are always going to be going "home" with beautiful women. Instead of trying to convince a girl to ditch her friends to go to a hotel she doesn't know with a guy she doesn't know (possibly all in a foreign country), all you have to do is convince her to walk down the hall to your room.
3. It's very common on spring break or at party places that hotels will only let guests into the hotel at night. If you don't have a room there, you're not getting a wristband. If you don't have a wristband, you're not going to a hotel room with her.

(It's possible to defeat the evil wristband police - on one of my most epic spring break adventures we met 3 really hot girls and had to smuggle them past gate security by hiding them under blankets in the back seat. But I can't count how many beautiful women I lost on spring break because they couldn't get into our hotel or we couldn't get into theirs.)

Pack some props for your hotel room. As you'll see in the "pre-party" section coming up, the right props can mean the difference between success and failure.

Also bring daytime/beach/pool props. This is something I stole from Savoy – he was telling me how he'd bring something interesting like a handwriting analysis book or a professional-looking photo portfolio along with a towel and sunglasses to the beach. When he saw someone he wanted to meet, he asked her to "watch his stuff" when he went to swim or get a drink. When he came back, at least half of the time the woman would be curious enough to start a conversation with HIM!

Hot girls hitting on you, surrounded by sun, sea, and drinks. Sure beats Monday at the office...

PART 2 - At your hotel...

Don't spend the daytime passed out from drinking the night before. A spring break hotel is a perfect opportunity to combine the pickup techniques of a Love Systems Bootcamp with the social alchemy of our unique creation, Social Circle Mastery.

Crack into as many groups of women as you can. Get involved in stuff. Surf. Swim. Hang out on the beach. Play beach volleyball and make some new hot friends with something like "Hey, we need two more girls for our team; you guys down to play?"

It's way easier to seduce a woman over many interactions over a week than it is as a one-shot deal (like if you tried to go from meet to sex the first time you met her). It's not like if you saw her at a bar and have no idea whether you'll see her again. You know where she'll be. She's at your hotel.

In other words, building value over time is way easier than trying to turn a hot "10" from Ice Queen to Love Slave in the last hour at a loud club.

And when you do see her at night, your work is cut in half. She knows you, so you won't need to approach. She'll be more comfortable hanging out with you than if she'd met you at the club.

Use the daytime to build comfort and some qualification. Some intrigue-based attraction is fine, but go easy on the high-energy emotional spike stuff. (The Love Systems Routines Manual explains the difference and gives examples of word-for-word scripts for either scenario.)

When you're out at night, pull out your high-energy state-based attraction game. Let her see you – the cool guy from the hotel – as a hot and sexy potential catch at the end of the night. You'll be miles ahead of the drunken strangers trying to pick her up.

No, this isn't the way the Emotional Progression Model (one part of the Love Systems approach... if you're lost, head over to the Magic Bullets page and pick up the book now or download the free sample pack) works, but then again, the Love Systems Triad is designed for the real world. Spring break is not the real world – it's an artificial reality full of tens of thousands of young, beautiful, sexually-minded women out for a party on the beach.

But there's also another, EVEN MORE IMPORTANT reason why you should make friends with women at your hotel.

They're your mini social circle.

Use them to attract MORE women – the women you do sleep with. Just like in normal life, having girls with your group will make you more attractive to approach other women (in the book Magic Bullets, we call this phenomenon "Pre-selection").

Spring break is filled with drunk obnoxious guys hitting on every hot girl. You'll stand out if you're the guy who women are hanging out with and having a great time. So don't run around 'your' hotel hitting on every hot girl.

(Of course, if she's not staying at your hotel, or she wants to go "chill" in your hotel room, go for it.)

These women – your mini social circle – are not your territory to be defended at all costs. Be relaxed and even encouraging if they talk to other guys. Don't kill the goose that lays the golden eggs...

PART 3 – The Pre-party...

Do NOT neglect this crucial technique. This is one of the biggest differences between men who are successful on spring break and men who aren't.

If you hit it off well with a girl or group of girls from your hotel, ask them what club they are going to that night. Whatever club they say, you say... "cool, I think that's where we are going. You guys want to catch a cab over together?" If they say yes, then invite them over to pre-party in your room at 8 or 9.

This means you should have music and a few drinks in your room so they will want to stay and will want to pre-party there next time. Drinking games, music, anything silly and fun.

Don't rush it with these women. Let any hooking up or coupling happen organically. Over the course of the night, some or all of their group is going to break off and meet other guys, and some of her girls won't like your buddies in that way. It doesn't matter. Don't make anyone uncomfortable by acting jealous.

PART 4 - At the clubs – Approaching...

Using indirect or opinion openers can work if you find a quiet area in the club, but you will quickly need to get into a topic that is fun. Spring break is all about cutting loose and being crazy. Deep, low-energy conversations won't get you far.

Myself, I prefer to use a direct or situational opener on spring break.

(If all of these types of openers are confusing, download the free chapter from Magic Bullets on approaching and openers. I strongly recommend you get the book itself if you haven't already, but at least meet me halfway here and get the free chapters.)

Don't worry if approaching seems a bit harder than you are used to. The clubs are so big, loud, and high-energy that it's inevitable. But it's also not as big of a deal. It's not like a quiet lounge back home where you have to maintain your social proof because everyone will notice. On spring break, you can get blown out a dozen times and no one will notice or care.

PART 5 - At the clubs – Taking it to the next level...

I'm probably going to sound like a broken record here, but logistics are key.

One of the great things about the new Love Systems model is that Savoy made logistics an explicit part of the process. I always felt that it was something that was lacking from how "the community" thought of pickup. And then we just did a great interview with Soul specifically on Logistics: Taking Her Home.

Well, guess what? Logistics are EVEN MORE IMPORTANT ON SPRING BREAK.

With every woman you talk to, find out her situation. Even if she's the hottest woman on the planet, it's a waste of time if she is staying 20 miles down the beach and she drove the rental car so all her friends could drink. Are there 10 girls staying in one room? Is she staying in a Fort Knox of a hotel? Are her friends extremely judgmental? Find out logistics early and cut bait if they're not favorable.

Remember that spring break is slightly different than normal club situations. Women aren't looking for their next boyfriends. Don't make the mistake of being the serious deep philosophical guy. Avoid attempting to run deep comfort until you get her back to the hotel or at least until you can get her somewhere quiet like a walk on the beach. In most venues it will be much too loud and crazy to hold a woman's attention if you try to slow things down and get deep.

Your main emphasis should be on keeping things playful and physical. This is best done through teasing and short role-plays, dancing, and leading. You may want to upgrade your skills in teasing and in role-plays by grabbing those audio guides (from our audio catalogue) first and listening to them on your way down.

Once you have her attention and attraction, focus hard on Logistics. Move her as much as possible. You need to build momentum for the point at the end of the night when you are expecting her to go home with a complete stranger to a hotel room she has never been to, in the middle of the night, possibly in a foreign country. Build momentum so that she gets used to following your lead.

Do NOT rely on phones, text messages, and phone game on spring break. Hot women (and the men they are interested in) are a dime a dozen and in the high-stimulation "party" atmosphere, it's almost weird to be putting too much effort into one girl. She'll wonder why none of the other 999,837,846 hot women on spring break are responding to you if you're so focused on her. Sure, take a phone number; it can't hurt, but don't expect great results from standard phone and text game.

The dance floor is the quickest way to escalate things physically (even if you can't dance, just move her to the center of the mob and grind away). These places are usually so loud that dancing is one of the most powerful tools in your arsenal. Of course you don't 'have' to dance and you can have success without it, but it will make your life much easier.

Dancing also eats a ton of time, which builds comfort, and takes care of the second pillar of the Love Systems Triad: Physical Escalation. Even if you can't dance, dance anyway. (For the blueprint on comfort and physical escalation, look no further than Magic Bullets.)

PART 6 – Taking her home...

Beware – don't sleep with a clingy girl who is staying at your hotel if you don't want to be seen with her all week. If she is really into you, she will get in the way with other women.

To avoid this, set the right frames both BEFORE and AFTER you hook up.

Before you sleep with her

Spring break is not a place where you are likely to meet your next girlfriend or future wife. Spring break is all about hooking up 'now or never.' If you are the kind of guy who is used to phone numbers, dates, and building deep comfort, you may be frustrated on spring break. The women are flaky and spring break is not logistically set up for dates.

Because of the lack of comfort-building opportunities, it's not uncommon for women to have second thoughts once they're in bed with you.

Protect yourself against this frustration by setting frames that imply sexual intent. You don't need to be overly sexual or pushy, but it is a good idea to introduce at least some sexual dialogue. The key is the timing. If you introduce it before you have solid attraction it will destroy your chances. You also want to wait to set these frames when you have some privacy and her friends aren't listening.

[For a complete discussion on the Seduction phase of the Emotional Progression Model and how to deal with last minute resistance, see Magic Bullets.]

Examples of Pre-Frames:

• "This is so weird that we met like this. It sucks we only have a week together."
• "You know what I like about you? You seem like you're really open minded. I like that. Most people are so judgmental and uptight."

Pre-Frame by Challenging Her Sexually:

• "You are really sexy and really cool, but I bet you are horrible in bed."
• "You are really sexy, but I can tell you are a bad kisser."
• "Oh, you're from the Midwest? So you are definitely a total prude."
• "We can't hang out, this ends in a makeout."
• "I love those shoes... if we end up having sex, you are leaving those on."
• "You're really hot, but I can already tell you are too much of a nice girl for me."
• "You're from the South? Okay, so you still have those weird 1950s views on boys and sex, right?"
• "We could never date. It would last exactly 2 months and be nothing but fights and makeup sex."
• "It's a good thing you don't live in Los Angeles... we would have sex like 5 times a day."

After you sleep with her

When you see her the next day, don't act weird. Just act exactly like you did the day before. Don't make out with her or run around the beach holding hands. Just be flirty and playful. If you are just being social in general then she won't notice that you are actively gaming other girls. If you try to hook up right in front of her it might cause problems, but if you are just talking to everyone, she will assume you are just a social guy.

The truth is that you should just avoid the women that you think will be clingy. Most women on spring break won't be. They are there for the same reason you are and are worried YOU are going to be clingy or get in the way of the rest of their spring break.

For that reason, even if you like her, don't treat her like she is your new girlfriend. You may or may not hook up with her again on the trip, but the fastest way to guarantee that you don't is to turn into a clingy boyfriend.

To set good frames, focus on stuff like "this was hot" and don't place an emphasis on the connection you made, the feelings you have for each other, or how glad you are that you met. Focus on "how attracted you are to her" and "how much she turns you on."

Keep things light/silly/playful after sex. Don't let things get too serious or awkward. When you wake up there will often be other people in the room (your friends or hers). I will often say something like the following to lighten the mood of the awkwardness of being naked in a stranger's hotel room the next morning.

Example in Action:

Braddock: "Mr. M, thank God I'm a moral rock. This girl tried to seduce me last night. I told her that I'm from Oklahoma and that we don't even kiss girls until the second date, but she insisted that I take my clothes off."

Girl: "[Laughing]... Whatever!!!"

Braddock: "Mr. M, you know how shy I am in bars and clubs. I was in the corner minding my own business and this girl comes up to me and basically forces me to drink alcoholic beverages, was uncomfortably touchy feely, and was talking all smooth."

Girl: "Hahaha... Whatever, Mr. M, he came and talked to me!!!"

Braddock: "Mr. M... don't let her paint me with an unfair brush. You know I'm saving my virginity until marriage. As a matter of fact... don't you think it's only fair that she buys us breakfast as payment for tricking a sweet, innocent Oklahoma boy?????"

Mr. M (Said in silly Australian Accent): "Yeah, I think that is more than fair. I mean I'm going to have to hold him and explain to him that you aren't going to marry him."

Girl: "HAHAHA!! You guys are awesome! Let me call all my friends and have an orgy."

Okay, maybe that is taking it a little far, but you get the point.

It's all about keeping things silly and light. You must steer the ship. If you keep things light and fun, she will stay light and fun. If you take things deep, she will go deep.

Good luck on your spring break adventure,

-Braddock

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Something I’m starting is going to be a Lesson of the week… Every week on the same day (Sunday) I’m going to be writing a lesson of the week… feel free to email me with specific lessons you want to learn, and if it gets enough buzz then I’ll be sure to post it!! Keep in mind that this might be old for some and new to others, if you don’t learn something new in this post, email me with something you’d like to learn about and I’ll throw it up here… Enjoy!!

So to kick it off, here’s your first lesson: Current Step, Next Step; The Formula For Congruency

A lot of times I ask guys on workshops these questions, 1) What do you think went well in that set? and 2) Where did things go wrong? And I’ll get a shit ton of different responses like, well 1) I opened well, didn’t hesitate, smiled, spoke loud and clear, made eye contact, etc.. and then for #2 the answer is almost always the same. “I ran out of things to say after the opener.” Then I’ll ask, “Do you have any of the transitions we gave you memorized, or in your phone for a quick sneak peak?” or even “Did you ask her where she was from or what the occasion was?”, they’ll say yes and recite a stock transition, or say “no I didn’t ask her that.” The problem here is HAVING AN AGENDA.

(This is common in a lot of other stages as well…attraction role plays, teasing her, qualifying questions, Using Braddock’s Trigger words and Inverse Trigger Words, and just through out the entire interaction.)

Having an agenda does a couple things:

- Gets you in your head thinking, ok what do I say next, how am I going to get this girl to give me the outcome I want (a laugh, a smile, to qualify, go to the bar, to kiss me, leave with me, etc..)

- Makes you come across “In-Congruent’” which is a HUGE TURN OFF to women…the basis of game is to be as authentic as possible, with knowing the correct buttons to push on each girl…not memorizing a bunch of lines and routines to “get” girls to act a certain way.

- It show’s that you’re focusing too much on the end result, something that is say, 10 steps down the line.  In life they say, the more you want something the more likely you’ll get it…while this is true, when it comes to dealing with people this statement is anything but true.  Focusing on your end result before/when starting will get you blown out faster than a New Jersey haircut (sorry Calabrese )

Here’s the simple formula to solve this problem of “HAVING AN AGENDA”:

30,000 foot view ;Current Step ; Next Step.

That’s it…just know a basic structure of the model (open, transitions, attract, qual, etc..) what you’re current step is, and then what your next step is and focus on that.  So instead of thinking… “Damn that girl is hot, I want to talk to her, ok what is my opener, ok what am I going to say next, ok what if she says this, then what will I say, ok then what role play am I going to use, ok how am I going to qualify her, ok, when and how am I going to touch her… etc…” Just think… current step, find hot girl, next step, approach hot girl….then now that you’ve approached you can update your current and next step.  Current step is to transition, next step is to tease/roleplay with her, and follow that model… so now that you’ve gotten into a marriage role play or something, re-assess..

Current step: make jokes of things in the role play, divorce/kids/cooking/family vacations to weird places/how she’s always trying to change you and dress you up/ other shit that married couples go thru

Next step: maybe you’re working on sexual hoops so your current step is to bring up something sexual in your marriage “This would never work out, it’d just be all fights and make up sex” (credit Braddock) and next step

Life is like a Giant staircase, the next step is always lit, but you can’t see ten steps up ahead.  So most people want to know what they should do for that 10^th step and where they should go, and will think “Well if I don’t know where I’m going I don’t want to take the next step.” But by taking that next step, you light up the next one, and then you take that and then the next one, etc…

Your brain can only hold one conscious thought at a time, so by telling it to worry about something 10 steps ahead, you’re going to not be able to focus on the current one.

Exercise for you to do… write down your steps… if you’re having trouble, here’s an example of mine:

(me in italics, girl in bold)

Step1: find hot gal

Step2: approach — Hey you are fuckin sexy, who are you? ::: Hi, I’m Jessica

Step3: Dubbsy’s “Dating Transition” — Ok sweet, we got the first date out of the way ::: Haha! First Date?

Step4: Role Play/set sexual frames for Same Night Lay — Yeah I heard it takes girls 3 dates to put out, so I’m just trying to get thru them faster ::: OMG haha, who told you that? I’ve got my sources…so our second date can beeee over there (point and move)… (they usually just smile or laugh here) … So I guess we can get to know each other now, but make this quick I want to get to the 3rd one, I’ve been practicing my kisses

Step5: start qualifying — So who are you, tell me something about you I wouldn’t know just from looking at you (credit Braddock) Read more...

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Jeremy Soul shows off his Day Game skills on Aftenbladet TV in Sweden

Watch as Jeremy Soul does what he’s best known for as he stops beautiful women on the streets of Sweden. Also included are commentaries and live discussion with one of the women!

Watch the video here.

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Supposedly Einstein said this:

"Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping that they won't change. Both are disappointed."

Smart guy, that Einstein.

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One of the world's top pickup artists, Keychain, got a provocative challenge the other day:

If I read your blog and do what it says, will I know how to get a girlfriend? Will I get a girlfriend?

Well, yeah. It shouldn't even take a year. So the stakes increased, and now Keychain is doing this publicly, on iamstaggered.com.

(And unlike every crappy "12 months to wasting your time" program out there, this one is free. It just got started, so follow along with Keychain's how to get a girlfriend challenge, here):

http://www.iamstaggered.com/featured/the-stop-being-single-challenge-part-one

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Hey guys,

I’ve started writing a guest blog on istaggered.com – a site to do with mens’ wedding issues (stag parties, best man speeches etc…). I’m challenging the readers to follow my blog for a year and am ‘guaranteeing’ that by the end of it they won’t be single anymore.

I thought I’d repost the first article for your interest and amusement

Enjoy!

Keychain

LINK: http://www.iamstaggered.com/featured/the-stop-being-single-challenge-part-one

REPOST:

Dear Reader,

Welcome to the Batchelor-Buster blog! Over the next weeks and months I’ll be presenting short, informative articles designed to radically change the way you conduct your dating life.

Contrary to the usual wishy-washy dating advice out there, I won’t bore you with vague exhortations to “just be yourself”, “be confident” and “be funny”. I’ll give you specific, tried and true techniques that will, if followed, turn your dating life around.

Whether you’re single and looking for that special someone or just want to increase your options with women, I’ll teach you how to take charge of your dating life and become the selector.

Sounds pretty enticing right?

But there’s a catch…

“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”. – Einstein

Mark, a good friend of mine, is chronically single. He’s unsatisfied with the type of women he meets and always seems to fall into relationships of convenience with women that don’t really inspire him. Mark dates women from two main sources, his workplace and social circle. In fact, this is where most of us assume we’ll find our partners.

The problem is that Mark’s choices are very limited. His dating life is out of his control; with such a passive approach to dating he is forced to rely on Fate, Cupid or blind luck to send an attractive, single woman across his path. It’s much like a caveman hunting deer by standing still in a forest and hoping some poor creature will run onto his spear by sheer chance!

What if Mark had the skill and confidence to strike up a conversation with any woman, in any situation? What if he could approach the cute brunette in the queue at the coffee shop, or the arty redhead on the tube? What if he could actually meet, have an interesting conversation and set up a date with the kinds of attractive women he sees around him every day? His options would be limitless!

Well, that’s what I propose to discuss in this blog: the skills, habits and mindsets required to actually take charge of your dating life and create some choice for yourself.

Earlier, I mentioned a catch and here it is: change. If you want to change the results of your dating life, you’ll need to change what you put into it. I’ll be suggesting specific changes that may challenge you. Most of us tend towards homeostasis and resist change but I encourage you to consider that if what you’re doing right now isn’t working, what have you got to lose by trying something different?

First Things First

Let’s finish with a quick exercise to work out the kind of woman you want. Now, at times (such as at 2am in a Friday night bar after a stiff drink or six), I might feel like just about any pretty girl with a pulse and a cute smile could be a candidate for my time and affection, but in my higher moments I have been known to hold to some form of standards!

These flashes of refinement and discernment, however rare, are actually a necessity to being successful in dating. On a more serious note, as you follow this blog and start changing the way you conduct your love life, your options will increase so much that you’ll need standards to choose which women to get to know better.

I’m not going to ask you to list the physical attributes that you find sexy in a woman. For most guys this is a no-brainer, our bodies tell us right away if we’re physically attracted to a woman or not. Physical attractiveness is very important and is the entry requirement for a woman to qualify for a date with you. But there are throngs of gorgeous women out there who measure up on a purely physical level – many more than you could possible date in a lifetime. We’ll need to deepen our search if we want to sort through this bounty of beauties to find the right match.

Let’s list eight non-physical qualities that you look for in a woman. Whether you want someone who is enthusiastic about travel, sexually confident and open-minded or a great cook, write them down. A man who clearly knows what he wants tends to get what he wants.

Save this list, you’ll need it for later blog installments.

Next time we’ll discuss easy and effective ways to start a conversation with any woman in any situation. We’ll look at some great opening lines and reveal the oh-so-common mistakes that cause most men to send women running!

Until then,

Steve Jones, aka Keychain

www.lovesystems.com

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So you're out at a bar and you're talking to a girl...

Things are going pretty well from your point of view; you overcame your approach anxiety, opened well, locked in, and have started to try and build attraction....

Along the way, you are trying to figure out if shes into you or not...

At some point she does something you think may be an 'IOI' (indicator of interest), but you're not sure...

There must be a quick and simple test to figure out if shes flirting back with you, or just being polite...?

Well, we at Love Systems have a very simple test to find out;

The 'Gay Bar IOI' Test - (or 'How to tell if the girl you're talking to is attracted to you')

Lets say she squeezes your knee as you make her laugh with a cute joke.

Form this picture in your head:

Imagine you are in a gay bar: A gay guy is obviously hitting on you....
Would you squeeze his knee as he makes a cute joke...?

Hell no right...??!! WHY...?!

BECAUSE HE WOULD THINK YOU WERE INTERESTED WHEN YOU ARE NOT!

So.

If a girl is doing something to YOU that you WOULDNT do to a gay guy trying to hit on you, then chances are extremely HIGH that it is an indicator of interest i.e. SHE IS ATTRACTED TO YOU!!

Some examples of things a girl whos into you may do, which you sure as hell wouldnt do to a gay guy in a night club;

• She squeezes your knee as you make her laugh
• She bites her lip as you tell her shes sexy
• She plays with her hair, caresses her neck & smiles with deep eye contact as you tell her a story about your time in Thailand
• Shes STILL talking to you after half an hour, giving you her full attention
• You smack her ass & tell her shes naughty and she giggles
  

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The March 2010 interview is out (subscribers have already had it for a little while, at about half price) and it's already headed to being one of the most popular ever. Not surprising since it was a very frequently-requested topic:

Introduction to Day Game

Click on the link above - the first 10 minutes will start playing automatically (and for free).

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Playboy Mansion Denouement – An Illustrated Account of Kandy Masquerade

“God I love my life”

That was the first thought that popped into my head as I opened my eyes, slightly hungover, and found myself looking out across Los Angeles valley…all the way to the ocean, totally clear. That happens like, what, once a year?

Second thought: “Oh damn, there even playing the Adam K remix of 4am down at the pool!” – But then I realized I just left my computer on repeat when I passed out at like 5:12am.

The Playboy Mansion did not fail to disappoint. We made sure to arrive early and were treated to the grand entrance of entirely naked, fully body-painted models and playmates alike

I proposed to a number of girls…and I remember at least two of them saying yes. This is a dangerous habit of mine, especially when doing programs with Future, because somehow, someway he is officially an ordained minister. I always weave that into the act and am probably officially married to around 8 girls on three continents as a result. Ha!

In any event, we opted to take our honeymoon in the Grotto and splashed around for a bit (although, in full disclosure I did not strip down and jump in like last time), to celebrate and consummate our new holy union.

Hugh Hefner made an appearance, which always draws a big crowd. He is never really in public without at least 4-5 girls, and tonight was no exception. In fact, I want to take a moment to thank the Hef for blazing a trail of awesomeness and inspiration. When I was 16 I idolized the guy and dreamed of hanging out at the Mansion. I guess dreams do come true!

The students had a blast as well, and made some pretty striking progress. One in particular who is relatively new to the game and this kind of lifestyle had some reservations before we hit the Mansion. After a couple drinks and some warm-up photos with half-naked chics, he came out of his proverbial shell and was just on fire the rest of the night.

Once the party really got underway (read: when Paul Oakenfold hit the stage!!) the place just exploded. The thing I love about Mansion parties is, well, some clubs you go to and at first it’s like “Whoa, this is the shit!” but then you go for a couple weeks and then it’s more like “Cool, well, here we are.”  – The Mansion is just not like that. Every time it exceeds whatever expectations I have and is just a crazy off-the-hook party

At a certain point memories started to blend together into a composite mosaic of nudity, body paint, alcohol, fun, and catered food. But towards the end of the night I caught a moment of relative peace on the stage with one of my DJ heroes Paul Oakenfold and got to give him my respects.

And as the night wound down. Someone needed a couple girls needed a lift home. I said I didn’t drive. That wasn’t what they had in mind

I really hope that things don’t change too much when Señor Hefner passes on to that big Grotto in the sky. It would be a real shame to lose such a bastion of permissivness and forthright sensuality.

I’m going to try and make this a semi-regular thing; running training events at the Mansion. So keep an eye out in about 6 months for another chance to visit the adult version of the Happiest Place on Earth.

Peace,

Starlight

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